Grumble grumble grumble.
Needing to have a long, unpleasant and delicate conversation with my girl about how NO ONE should pressure a child to lie. If dingus cancelled your pointe class (protected by the decree - I'm going to have to chat with her instructor and explain that, yes, all level 5 students are required to be at two ballet, one pointe and one jazz class per week, but every other week, an hour of pointe class is too much of a burden for someone "special") because he didn't want to stay in town for it, then coached you on how you should make sure mom doesn't find out and here's your story... which doesn't add up and she couldn't keep everything straight and I KNEW she wasn't there because I carpool another girl on Fridays and I SAW that she wasn't there and the step who was allegedly still at work and unable to watch her dance (at the class she didn't actually attend) was IN THE CAR as if I and everyone else are both blind and stupid... then you are perfectly okay telling him "I WILL NOT LIE." This is becoming a huge problem and a major safety issue. This isn't the first time it has happened - it's just getting more and more frequent. Once he picked her up just so he could drop her at his place and then leave and she was told not to tell...even lost her phone privileges permanently when he found out she had called me to ask if I could "come hang out with her" while she was all alone and he was at work an hour away. I'm worried that, if she is conditioned to lie so that people won't know when HE is doing something wrong, then she won't have the tools to protect herself and report if someone ELSE does something wrong to/with/around her and tells her to lie and make sure no one else finds out. DANGER, WILL ROBINSON! DANGER!
I should also probably let the dingus know that, when he comes out and acts all puffed up and self-righteous about "I'm concerned about her having unrestricted access to the internet on her iPod," he should first address the fact that he has her playing inappropriately and gratuitously violent games like HALO and CoD which are NOT allowed at home, and exposes her to pre-marital "relations" as if they were normal and acceptable, then he should probably be a responsible parent (instead of just posturing as one) and put some friggin' parental controls on the router like I have at home. I suppose I should also mention that the parental controls on her iPod are set to "clean" and nothing above PG13, are passcode protected (which is why he can't see them - you have to know the passcode to get into those settings), and any attempts to change them alert to MY account... SHOULD probably let him know. Might not. Might just let him rot...
Bah.
Vent accomplished.
Thanks for listening.
Or not.
Carry on.
WAKE UP, ZEEEEEEE!!!!!
