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Robby Offline
#1 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 5:20 PM EST
Joined: 10-30-2002
Posts: 5,067
I made mention of the fact several weeks ago that my wife has left and taken our infant son and filed for divorce. This came after some reorgs at work which placed considerably more stress on me. This morning, I learned that my Mother whom I was very close to passed Saturday evening unexpectedly. I am the executor of the estate and am making plans to deal with my father who has many issues including early Alzheimer’s.

This is “testing me” and I am asking for the members of this board to please remember me in their prayers. I will be off line for several weeks.
mrtelcom Offline
#2 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 5:33 PM EST
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Robby -

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you.

Stay strong, and again (sent you an email earlier today), I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Never forget, divorced or not, your son needs and will benefit from your love.

Mark
Steve*R Offline
#3 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 5:35 PM EST
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Robby: It is absolutely necessary for you to see an attorney immediately, for several reasons. If there is an estate, and you are still married, your wife has a claim against your inheritance during the divorce proceedings, unless you had a prenuptual agreement. You say your wife "took your infant son." Do you have court arranged visitation? Has she left the state, denying you access to your child? There are many legal ramifications of a pending divorce when there is a death and inheritance. Get a recommendation from a person you trust for a lawyer that specializes in divorce/family law and has an associate that is an estate/will specialist.
Do this tomorrow!
choner Offline
#4 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 5:56 PM EST
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Good Luck Robby. My heart goes out to you.

choner
wekikther4wer Offline
#5 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 6:22 PM EST
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I pray that the good Lord will watch over you and your family Robby. My mom used to say, the Lord never gives us more than we can carry. God Bless.
xibbumbero Offline
#6 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 7:19 PM EST
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Robby,I am very sorry to hear of your troubles. I will keep you my thoughts and prayers. Be strong my friend. Time and strength will heal all and you will come out stronger in the end. X
RICKAMAVEN Offline
#7 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 7:22 PM EST
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all the guys will pray for you, but i will think good thoughts for you and send good vibes for your safe resolution of all your problems.

remember all things pass and good comes in many disguises.
jd1 Offline
#8 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 7:28 PM EST
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Prayer said Robby and I continue to pray for your strength and that of your family. Always remember that your son is important to you and he will need you to be as strong as possible. Take care.
usahog Offline
#9 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 7:53 PM EST
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Posts: 22,691
Robby,

Bro Your in the Wife and I's Prayers and have been... what SteveR said here is a Must!!!

You also have my Phone Number Bro.. you can call anytime if you need to talk...

Russ (Hog)
Homebrew Offline
#10 Posted: Sun, Oct 19 2003, 11:29 PM EST
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Hey Robby,
I have you, in my prayers. Wish the best for you.
Steve is right, get an attorney, Now.
Later
Dave (A.K.A. Homebrew)
dz130 Offline
#11 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 1:05 AM EST
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Robby
I'll say prayers for you and your family. Don't forget to take extra care of yourself right now. All this stress can really wear you down, and eat you up. You need all the strength you can muster to get you through this. And your true friends will be there for you to lean on if necessary.

Doug
JustDanD Offline
#12 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 1:05 AM EST
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Posts: 748
Been through similar stuff and survived. You have our prayers all the way.

Dan (JustDanD)
alsant Offline
#13 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 2:58 AM EST
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Thoughts and prayers with you.
al'Thor Offline
#14 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 4:32 AM EST
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Prayin' like crazy for you - strength, wisdom, patience, etc. - He'll be with you...

E
rasdas Offline
#15 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 4:42 AM EST
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Robby...be strong...thoughts and prayers are with you...

RasDas

Joe
Penguin13 Offline
#16 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 4:49 AM EST
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My thoughts go out to you buddy. Be strong and if there is anything you need, let me know.

KC
threedrcoupe atyahoo dotcom
rmarrandino Offline
#17 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 5:15 AM EST
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Robby,

I so sorry to hear about your mother. Stay strong.

Rocco
merlin9052 Offline
#18 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 5:38 AM EST
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Robby,
Hang in there bro!! prayers and good thoughts coming your way!!

Eric
Sonny_LSU Offline
#19 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 8:00 AM EST
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Hang in there Robby.
You're in my thoughts and prayers.
neuroman Offline
#20 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 8:06 AM EST
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Romans 8:28
Lowman Offline
#21 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 9:44 AM EST
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Sorry for your loss. Best of luck with everything.

Prayers being sent your way...

Low
sketcha Offline
#22 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 10:07 AM EST
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Prayer sent, Robby. Take care of yourself, buddy. You have my email if you need anything.
BeatDragon Offline
#23 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 10:45 AM EST
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Hang in there Man. We're with ya.

And remember to take care of yourself too.

tonester666 Offline
#24 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 11:16 AM EST
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you are in my prayers bro - take care.
cwilhelmi Offline
#25 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 12:42 PM EST
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Good luck dealing with everything, It's hard now but it will all work out for the best!

C
DrMaddVibe Offline
#26 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 12:59 PM EST
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What Beat said...ditto!
turnberry Offline
#27 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 1:21 PM EST
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Robby:
So sorry to hear about you Mom. We just lost my wife's father and it has been a very difficult time for her so I understand the stress.

It is difficult to think about the legal issues at a time like this but Steve is right on. Get a good legal advisor pronto! It may save a lot of additional grief and bitterness later. God bless ya' man.
gorob23 Offline
#28 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 5:35 PM EST
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Robby sorry about your mom. Lost mine to cancer in 1995 and I still miss her, hang in there. I know it's not much, but really just keep pluging away bro. Prayers to you. Rob
eleltea Offline
#29 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 6:30 PM EST
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That's the worst kind of news. Pray for strength.
Mr.Mean Offline
#30 Posted: Mon, Oct 20 2003, 7:13 PM EST
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my deepest sympathies Robby. I am truly sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. Stay strong brother.
wbslngr Offline
#31 Posted: Tue, Oct 21 2003, 6:47 AM EST
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Everyone here is like family, when one says brother, I feel they mean it. My prayers and thoughts are with you also. There are a ton of us here if you ever needed to talk. I don't think anyone would turn you away.
osage Offline
#32 Posted: Tue, Oct 21 2003, 2:04 PM EST
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Prayers have been said. That is more than one person needs to endure in one month. Good luck!
Tobasco Offline
#33 Posted: Tue, Oct 21 2003, 9:08 PM EST
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Man, I dont know how I missed this one. Robby, sorry about your Mom. My Dad has alzheimers too. I'll keep you in my prayers...

Take care, Mike
smithbw Offline
#34 Posted: Wed, Oct 22 2003, 8:21 AM EST
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Wow! Wow! Wow!

This is mind boggling...I was just thinking of you earlier today and wondering how you are doing!

If there is anything (And I Do Mean Anything) that you need - please don't hesitate to contact me!

Steve*R gives some excellent advice and you will be in my prayers!

Sincerely,


B
JonR Offline
#35 Posted: Wed, Oct 22 2003, 12:39 PM EST
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Yo Robby: Every Saturday night I stop by my church for a half hour or so, and I light a candle for my Father (deceased) and my Mother. This Saturday I will include your Mother and Father, my deepest sympathy. JonR
Robby Offline
#36 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 12:44 PM EST
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I would like to personally thank everyone who sent their prayers and best wishes. It was a very difficult time. Without question, the most difficult week of my life.

My father is not doing well. He's going to need care, and my brother (God love him) is insisting that my father move in with him for the time being (next several years) and that may be all the time he has.

He has some issues with his memory as I'd alluded. When I arrived Sunday morning (the 19th) everyone held each other and wept for my mother. Then Saturday morning, I went in to wake my dad to take him to dialysis. When he woke up, he smiled at me and said, “hey son, good morning, where’s your mother?” I held him and quietly explained that she passed away the other day and she’s in heaven with God. He broke down. It was as if he was just getting the news for the first time. This happened repeatedly, perhaps 6 times throughout the week. This aspect was what made it almost impossible to bear, the “re-grieving” as it was dubbed.

That combined with the arduous task of going through all of the files and documents and finding things not seen for 30 years. Pictures of my mother receiving awards at work, report cards she had saved from our youth, letters, etc… It was very emotional as I’m sure many can imagine, and many others have lived this.

It put a whole new perspective on life for me and it’s one I hope I can keep. Death of a loved one teaches those who remain the true value of life and I believe, the true meaning of life. That being that we love each other, that we learn to let bygones be bygones and learn how to forgive, especially those close to us or those who should be. That each day is a gift and we should enjoy it. That when we’re gone, the true measure of the life we’ve lived is the way in which we are remembered, not what we obtained, not what we attained, not what we accomplished, but rather the love and sense of loss reflected in the eyes of those who mourn our passing.

Well, I’m rambling now, I didn’t mean to, but I do sincerely thank from the bottom of my heart all who’ve prayed for me. I needed it, I felt it, and I thank you.

Robby.
usahog Offline
#37 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 12:54 PM EST
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good to see ya back Bro... and Great to see your Holding Together!!!! God Bless you and Yours!!!

Hog
xibbumbero Offline
#38 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 1:33 PM EST
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Robby,Keep a stiff upper lip my friend. Take care and take it one day at a time. X
Vagasil Digisle Offline
#39 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 2:45 PM EST
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Best of luck, and with the guidance of the lord you will come out of the a better and stronger person
wer Offline
#40 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 3:54 PM EST
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Missed this last week as I was contemplating the other end of the life/death spectrum. My sympathies for your loss and other hardships. I wish you continued strength with these trials.
gorob23 Offline
#41 Posted: Mon, Oct 27 2003, 7:24 PM EST
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Lost my mom to cancer in 1998 and damn I still miss her, we were very close. Take care bro hang in there good night all Rob
JustDanD Offline
#42 Posted: Tue, Oct 28 2003, 1:21 AM EST
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Wow, Robby. That's tough going there. We will continue to pray for your strength during these times.

Dan
Deriffe Offline
#43 Posted: Tue, Oct 28 2003, 7:30 AM EST
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THoughts and prayers sent. They will be needed for some time to come.
billreif Offline
#44 Posted: Tue, Oct 28 2003, 2:46 PM EST
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Prayers from me and mine,
I pray for all the members
in this forum nightly.
This is a great group of
people.
CanyonDVM Offline
#45 Posted: Thu, Oct 30 2003, 6:49 PM EST
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Posts: 259
I know I'm a little late but prayers done and will continue as you will be dealing with this for a long time. To paraphrase Mother Theresa I know God won't give me any more to deal with then I can handle. I just sometimes wish he didn't trust me so much.
grizzly Offline
#46 Posted: Fri, Oct 31 2003, 4:52 AM EST
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Try to positive, my prayers and positive thoughts for you.
E-Chick Offline
#47 Posted: Fri, Oct 31 2003, 1:53 PM EST
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Robby,

I just discovered this thread since I was gone a few weeks...

My heart sunk as I read your words...

I am so sorry to hear about how everything that seemed normal in your life has seemed to turn upside down recently.

I'm at a loss for words, but please know that I do care what happens with you...and I'll lift you and yours up in prayer, along with the others that have prayer requests here...

I wish the best for all of us CigarBid members...it's tough to see one of us down...

Take care, and please email if you need to vent...

Marla
usahog Offline
#48 Posted: Sat, Nov 1 2003, 3:00 PM EST
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