Rick, don't misunderstand me ... I HAVE watched him blossom into an adult I like and one I like a lot! ... I was doing my lame best to make a joke out of his politics, which I strongly disagree with, but which I actually tolerate quite well ... he's an extremely bright guy who after college worked for 12 years as a sports reporter for one of the Bay Area papers ... the boy did his dad pretty proud in the work he did there, too, winning three national journalism awards for his work ... the others have distinguished themselves too, each in his own way ... my soon-to-be 33 yo, for example, was in combat search and rescue for the navy and I could go on at a too-great length bragging on his accomplishments ... the letter of commendation we received from the department of the navy is the sort of thing that parents dreams are made of ... MrsS and myself are, I feel, as lucky as you describe yourselves being ... 4 sons who, on their b-days this year turn 36, 34, 33 and 25 ... all good citizens and all very responsible ... I've said countless times that everyone should be as fortunate as we are to have kids who turn out as ours have and it sounds as if you and Toby are just that ... my sincere, heartfelt congratulations to you ... it's to be lamented that every parent cannot say the same.