what CWF said. bingo.
and slim said, "A sickness or illness in the family shouldn't stop anyone from sending a simple email explanation." he also pointed out that if you're prone to forgetting, you shouldn't be trading.
here's my personal take: i have major health issues. i AM prone to forgetting (thanks to the meds). but thankfully i have a NOTEBOOK and a PEN and can write down who sent me what, what trades i have agreed to and any other info that is needed. it's not too much effort to just WRITE IT DOWN.
secondly, while i may have to jot down reminders, i do have a very, very strong memory in a way -- i never, ever, ever forget a good deed done to me (or a slight, for that matter, though i try to let go of those rather than hold on to negativity).
i might not be able to turn right around and bomb someone back who has gifted me with cigars, but i will "get even" as soon as i can. and in the meantime, i will give all the props i can give to the guys who have shown such generosity and kindness.
again, that's not too much effort, no matter how i'm feeling physically. and even if i don't have a dime to use for postage, it doesn't cost a penny to jump on here and say a good word about a brother (or sister) so everyone knows "hey, this is a great B/SOTL."
then when i'm able to do more, i can do more -- send him some sticks, a cd, whatever.
yes, "$*it happens," but i find that there is not much of an excuse for not at least staying in communication.
i've still not been able to write out all the emails i want, but i can post a dang message here saying "this is what's going on guys; i've not forgotten."