A man lived in a fishing village.
He had a boat moored at the doc.
The boat came loose from it’s mooring one day and drifted out in the bay.
It became entangled in another fisherman’s nets. The fisherman observed that the boat had come untied and drifted in to his nets. He untangled them, tied the boat to his, and took it back to the doc for the owner.
Another day, a man in a boat was not paying attention to where he was as he was going out to lay his nets, he drifted in to another fisherman’s nets and became entangled. The other fisherman screamed and yelled at the man for fouling his nets!
The two scenarios were similar, but the outcomes were completely different, i.e., the way the people reacted. In the first scenario, the fisherman actually took the boat back for the other man. He did not react with anger. In the second, scenario, the fisherman with the fouled nets became enraged under very similar circumstances.
The moral of the story? “Be the boat” not the man in the boat… Try to interact with others in a manor, which evokes a desire for them to help you even if they are inconvenienced.