PP in DC:
yours is a very common problem, mister player. but before we get into that, thank you for the lovely compliment. and YES! i have been known to wear The Weave on occasion. how sweet of you to notice!
now then, mister sassy pants, back to your problem.
we have to start low and go lower here. sometimes when you hit the bottom, you just have to dig! dig like the wind! or is it break like the wind? who knows. anyway, can you dig it?
PP, this has F-E-A-R written ALL over it! human beings are odd little ducks. if we meet something new to us, our first instinct is to FEEEEEAAAR it. this is leftover from our caveman days, much like your knowledge of the english language! oh, but i kid. i love, and i kid.
what your wife is going through is simple cavewoman fear. this other scary creature, genus "girlus friendus" has her knickers in a knot because she doesn't understaaaaaand this "other" in your life. the most dangerous thing in the world is the human imagination left to run amock with no information to settle its butt down! your wife is thinking, "who is this woman? does he love her more than me? if he does, will any of his sweet sweet lubbins be left for me?" oh, ALL kinds of fear here, sweetie. it's a FEAR FRENZY in your wife's addled little head!
well, just like the cavemen and cavewomen of old, you can use that nifty thing we call "fire" and shed some light into that old gal's walls! er, cave walls that is. let's not go too kinky!
what you need to do is pick a time when you're all three available and not harried or burdened with too much of life's silly old problems, and make some FIRE in that cave of yours! a little wine, perhaps, a little barry white on the stereator -- introduce that girlfriend of yours to your wife. show her that the "ooooooooo! big scary OTHER!" is just a shadow in her dark imagination, just a shadow on the wall caused by the moon! "see, honey?" you can tell your wife "she ain know kina monstir gon byt your azz!"
indeed, your wife will see that this "threat" is really no threat at all! just a sweet little pussycat, not about to harm a single soul. encourage your wife and girlfriend to talk, get to know each other. you know, explore each other a bit and feel each other out. or up. i think you'll all three be feeling close and cozy in NO time!
thanks for sharing,
dokter cab
p.s. did you know that the word "illuminate" comes from the latin "lumin" which means "light?" well, silly, now ya do! now go get 'em, tiger, and light BOTH their fires!