Covfireman
10 years ago
On the op as a father I have a problem with what this country has devolved into . People no more have the common courtesy to realize that exercising their rights comes with the responsibility of respecting others rights. The kid has a right to be whatever HE wants his parents should have taught him rights don't extend to trampling on others rights . The females in this situation should expect the small amount of privacy afforded to them in a locker room to remain .



The question I have is " So how many husbands here would be comfortable allowing me to enter the bathroom/locker room with their spouse since I'm a man who kind of identifies as a 'lesbian trapped in a man's body' " ?
MACS
10 years ago

Why would a father care?

I mean, I can understand this being a bit of a pain in the butt for administrators. But why a father?

And why would you be so rude as to call her "him" when she has specifically requested that she be referred to as "Her"?

victor809 wrote:



Because he is a boy, with boy genitalia. What he wants to be called conflicts with what he is.

He's a dude. Period. End of discussion. He has no business being in a girls locker room, whether he prefers the hot dog to the bun makes no difference.
dstieger
10 years ago
Why are there separate locker rooms (and bathrooms) for boys and girls?

Not being facetious....I think that if there is a 'good', agreed upon underlying reason for it, and it is based upon 'sexuality', then perhaps separate facilities for 'non-heteros' would be an appropriate solution.
victor809
10 years ago

Because he is a boy, with boy genitalia. What he wants to be called conflicts with what he is.

He's a dude. Period. End of discussion. He has no business being in a girls locker room, whether he prefers the hot dog to the bun makes no difference.

MACS wrote:



MACS.... I actually used to take that line of thought as well. But gender and sexuality is much more complicated than that. I mean, you have genetic gender, which is generally binary but has a number of outliers (infrequent, but exist)... XXY (a 1:500 male births, so likely at least one in every high school) can present as male or female physically, but the genetics are a bit more ambiguous. More interestingly is the Androgen Insensitivity, which while rare (1:50k, or 80 born per year) will result in genetically male, but physically female children. These children have been found to identify as male or female depending.

So, stepping away from genetics, even ignoring that the most fundamental building blocks, the instructions for how our bodies are build, can deviate from the simple binary, we can look at the phenotype of the child. You're starting with the basic assumption that the best thing to do is to separate all the pen3ses from all the vag!inas. We already know that the presence of a pen@s doesn't necessarily mean they're attracted to vag#ina (and vice versa)... And we know that the presence of a pen#is doesn't necessarily mean the person owning it is identified as male. So what are you trying to accomplish from separating the pen#ses from the vag#nas? Are you trying to keep high school kids from the genitals they're turned on by? In that case, locker rooms should be divided by attraction, not gender. Are you trying to keep all the pen#ses in one room and all the vag#nas in another room? Then the locker rooms are just a phenotype separation and not "males/females" but "pen#ses/vag^nas" and perhaps the signs should indicate such. Unknowningly, we've traditionally separated by a male/female "identity", because we've had very binary gender roles, so people who had female equipment were expected to have the entire female identity accompany it, and as such the separate rooms were wrapped up in a complete gender identity, not just equipment. As such, under the current situation, it makes some sense that a person identifying as female (phenotype be damned) is more suitable in the female's locker room. I'm not saying it's simple or without issues, but these issues are much more complicated than just what's dangling between your legs

Additionally, a number of people discuss this from a "rights" idea, which I think they really mean "comfort".. as in, the comfort of the people who use the women's bathroom vs the comfort of the transgender who wants to use the women's bathroom. This is a valid discussion, as the entire purpose of a bathroom is to provide a level of comfort for people while they get butt naked or do whatever they need to do. If people were simply comfortable changing in public, locker rooms wouldn't be necessary. But that in mind, the idea should be to maximize comfort across the board, not just in respect to the women in the locker room. How many boys do you think are going to be comfortable when a girl walks into the men's locker room to get changed, just because she's still got a d!ck? More interestingly, I don't know what your locker-room experiences were when you were in high school, but I don't remember anyone running around butt-nekkid with their genitalia swinging in the breeze. Kids generally got their underwear on/off pretty quickly because everyone is embarrassed of their bodies at that age. From that standpoint, is their greater discomfort to everyone involved if someone dressed as a woman is in the men's locker-room, or if someone who has male genitalia is in the women's? I don't know the answer, but those who just want to compare the women vs the transgender are missing an important part.
teedubbya
10 years ago
No one is going to read that.

Merica
banderl
10 years ago

No one is going to read that.

Merica

teedubbya wrote:




Yep, Victor has too much time on his hands. He needs to go back to work.
tonygraz
10 years ago
I read it - very fast tho.
riverdog
10 years ago
I've been reading it for the last hour and a half.
dstieger
10 years ago
I read it, if only because he was trying to get at the same thing I was; challenging assumptions and 'standards' - or least asking for others to question why things are the way they are...and not just why do those we consider freaks piss us off no matter what they do
MACS
10 years ago
I read it. Didn't change my mind.

Surprise!

Edit: For all involved (boys/girls/confused) maybe we should have a boys locker room, a girls locker room, and a bathroom with the male/female on the door, for use by anyone of any sex - one at a time. This way the girls feel comfy, the boys don't get weirded out, and the boys that think they are girls, and the girls that think they are boys can have their own space to feel comfy.
Abrignac
10 years ago
I real paragraph and a half. It seems like Victor was saying have one set of facilities for those with a peni$' and one set of facilities for those with peni$ envy. Does that mean that a hall monitor should be placed out side to check and see if those entering have a manual choke that needs to be pulled occasionally or they have an automatic choke which is usually stuck in the closed position?
tailgater
10 years ago

MACS.... I actually used to take that line of thought as well. But gender and sexuality is much more complicated than that. I mean, you have genetic gender, which is generally binary but has a number of outliers (infrequent, but exist)... XXY (a 1:500 male births, so likely at least one in every high school) can present as male or female physically, but the genetics are a bit more ambiguous. More interestingly is the Androgen Insensitivity, which while rare (1:50k, or 80 born per year) will result in genetically male, but physically female children. These children have been found to identify as male or female depending.

So, stepping away from genetics, even ignoring that the most fundamental building blocks, the instructions for how our bodies are build, can deviate from the simple binary, we can look at the phenotype of the child. You're starting with the basic assumption that the best thing to do is to separate all the pen3ses from all the vag!inas. We already know that the presence of a pen@s doesn't necessarily mean they're attracted to vag#ina (and vice versa)... And we know that the presence of a pen#is doesn't necessarily mean the person owning it is identified as male. So what are you trying to accomplish from separating the pen#ses from the vag#nas? Are you trying to keep high school kids from the genitals they're turned on by? In that case, locker rooms should be divided by attraction, not gender. Are you trying to keep all the pen#ses in one room and all the vag#nas in another room? Then the locker rooms are just a phenotype separation and not "males/females" but "pen#ses/vag^nas" and perhaps the signs should indicate such. Unknowningly, we've traditionally separated by a male/female "identity", because we've had very binary gender roles, so people who had female equipment were expected to have the entire female identity accompany it, and as such the separate rooms were wrapped up in a complete gender identity, not just equipment. As such, under the current situation, it makes some sense that a person identifying as female (phenotype be damned) is more suitable in the female's locker room. I'm not saying it's simple or without issues, but these issues are much more complicated than just what's dangling between your legs

Additionally, a number of people discuss this from a "rights" idea, which I think they really mean "comfort".. as in, the comfort of the people who use the women's bathroom vs the comfort of the transgender who wants to use the women's bathroom. This is a valid discussion, as the entire purpose of a bathroom is to provide a level of comfort for people while they get butt naked or do whatever they need to do. If people were simply comfortable changing in public, locker rooms wouldn't be necessary. But that in mind, the idea should be to maximize comfort across the board, not just in respect to the women in the locker room. How many boys do you think are going to be comfortable when a girl walks into the men's locker room to get changed, just because she's still got a d!ck? More interestingly, I don't know what your locker-room experiences were when you were in high school, but I don't remember anyone running around butt-nekkid with their genitalia swinging in the breeze. Kids generally got their underwear on/off pretty quickly because everyone is embarrassed of their bodies at that age. From that standpoint, is their greater discomfort to everyone involved if someone dressed as a woman is in the men's locker-room, or if someone who has male genitalia is in the women's? I don't know the answer, but those who just want to compare the women vs the transgender are missing an important part.

victor809 wrote:



Cliff's notes version:
I play rugby, so I know all about the gays and the trannys.
I'm also a scientist, and I'll prove it with genetic gobblygook.
But I am not a father. I Have no children. So I don't know what it means to want to protect your child from anything and everything. So I'll just infer that you're all stupid. Or a bigot.

🍺

tailgater
10 years ago
The high school in town has a tranny student.

She was born female and grew up as a very "girly girl". Always dresses, never jeans. No Tom boy, this one.

Come sophomore year, decides she's a he.
Dresses as dude. Wears hair like a dude.
Uses the guys bathroom.

Here's the weird part. :-s
She wants to go to the prom in a dress.
As a girl.

And it gets better. 😕
There is talk that the typical graduation gowns of blue (for boys) and white (for girls) will be consolidated to one color so there is no gender implication.

My son is a sophomore, and says he doesn't care about the bathroom issue.
Said "it's not like she's in the locker room or anything".

So there it is.
A boy who has grown up with acceptance at every level knows that there IS a line that should not be crossed.



victor809
10 years ago

Cliff's notes version:
I play rugby, so I know all about the gays and the trannys.
I'm also a scientist, and I'll prove it with genetic gobblygook.
But I am not a father. I Have no children. So I don't know what it means to want to protect your child from anything and everything. So I'll just infer that you're all stupid. Or a bigot.

🍺

tailgater wrote:



come on Anthony, calling scientific terms "gobbledy-gook" yet putting weight on "what it means to want to protect your child from anything and everything" is just demeaning to the argument.

I don't know many "trannys" last transgender I sat and chatted with for any length was a woman who was in the process of identifying as a man. He was at a party I had at my house and was a lot of fun to chat with. By the end of the night we were making people who showed up late to the party sniff his "sock" he was using to give himself a bulge... yeah, we were all drunk.

But to simplify the argument down to "I want to protect my child" is knee-jerk.... because you haven't decided what the danger is. This is why (and dstieger was saying much more succinctly) I was asking what you're trying to separate. Are you trying to protect your daughter from a **** in the locker room? Why does that matter if the owner of said **** is attracted to men? Why aren't you trying to protect your daughter from lesbians in the locker room? If you create a locker-room for lesbians, who protects them from each other? 🙂 For "protecting your child" to be an argument it really should appear that you have a good understanding of what you are trying to protect the child from, what the actual statistical risks are, and be trying to minimize the dangers with the highest risk of occurring...

For instance... I can't find a single instance of a transgender raping someone in a locker room... or of a non transgender using those laws to go into a locker room and raping someone. So why is that the danger people want to protect their children from, while there are plenty of other instances in society where the risk is much greater? Think of how silly you find anti-gun laws being proposed because of a high-profile shooting.... your actual danger of being shot up in a church are very low, yet that's the "danger" those people are focusing on... not the more likely dangers in life.
victor809
10 years ago

The high school in town has a tranny student.

She was born female and grew up as a very "girly girl". Always dresses, never jeans. No Tom boy, this one.

Come sophomore year, decides she's a he.
Dresses as dude. Wears hair like a dude.
Uses the guys bathroom.

Here's the weird part. :-s
She wants to go to the prom in a dress.
As a girl.

And it gets better. 😕
There is talk that the typical graduation gowns of blue (for boys) and white (for girls) will be consolidated to one color so there is no gender implication.

My son is a sophomore, and says he doesn't care about the bathroom issue.
Said "it's not like she's in the locker room or anything".

So there it is.
A boy who has grown up with acceptance at every level knows that there IS a line that should not be crossed.



tailgater wrote:



She sounds... confused. Hopefully she decides on a gender before making any permanent changes.

How would the parents of the girls feel that you want to send a person who identifies as a male, is attracted to and wants to sexualize women, into the girls locker room with their daughters? 🙂
opelmanta1900
10 years ago
Victor, your argument amounts to: What we can't see and are not scientifically sure of should trump what we can see and are scientifically sure of...

tailgater
10 years ago

come on Anthony, calling scientific terms "gobbledy-gook" yet putting weight on "what it means to want to protect your child from anything and everything" is just demeaning to the argument.

I don't know many "trannys" last transgender I sat and chatted with for any length was a woman who was in the process of identifying as a man. He was at a party I had at my house and was a lot of fun to chat with. By the end of the night we were making people who showed up late to the party sniff his "sock" he was using to give himself a bulge... yeah, we were all drunk.

But to simplify the argument down to "I want to protect my child" is knee-jerk.... because you haven't decided what the danger is. This is why (and dstieger was saying much more succinctly) I was asking what you're trying to separate. Are you trying to protect your daughter from a **** in the locker room? Why does that matter if the owner of said **** is attracted to men? Why aren't you trying to protect your daughter from lesbians in the locker room? If you create a locker-room for lesbians, who protects them from each other? 🙂 For "protecting your child" to be an argument it really should appear that you have a good understanding of what you are trying to protect the child from, what the actual statistical risks are, and be trying to minimize the dangers with the highest risk of occurring...

For instance... I can't find a single instance of a transgender raping someone in a locker room... or of a non transgender using those laws to go into a locker room and raping someone. So why is that the danger people want to protect their children from, while there are plenty of other instances in society where the risk is much greater? Think of how silly you find anti-gun laws being proposed because of a high-profile shooting.... your actual danger of being shot up in a church are very low, yet that's the "danger" those people are focusing on... not the more likely dangers in life.

victor809 wrote:



Who's anthony?

Either way, you're trying to disprove all "reasons" offered for keeping the tranny out.
Instead, why don't you tell us why a person who identifies as the opposite sex should be allowed to abandon our society norms and ignore basic biology.

I feel terrible for the confused kids, but often times that's all it is. In which case all we're doing is encouraging this type of behavior.
And I can't stress this enough: If a born-male decided god got his plumbing wrong and wanted to join my daughter in the locker room, I'd be front and center at that school demanding to remove him/her. That's the part you don't understand. I don't need statistics to justify my concern. It's wrong even without an incident of rape. It's wrong.

So. Sorry about that extra appendage where you think your vajayjay should be. But don't make it everyone else's issue.


Btw, doesn't the worlds most famous tranny still like women?
So we'll be sending Caitlyn Jenner, a male athlete, into the womens room. With an apparent desire for women. And you think it's preposterous to think it's a recipe for disaster.

](*,)
victor809
10 years ago

Victor, your argument amounts to: What we can't see and are not scientifically sure of should trump what we can see and are scientifically sure of...

opelmanta1900 wrote:



Actually, it's kind of the exact opposite of what you just wrote.
There is zero evidence of danger to women posed by transgenders, yet safety of the children is the reason being offered.

I find the comfort argument much more compelling than the "protect children" argument.
victor809
10 years ago

Who's anthony?

tailgater wrote:

abrignac is anthony.... keep up tail. :)


Either way, you're trying to disprove all "reasons" offered for keeping the tranny out.
Instead, why don't you tell us why a person who identifies as the opposite sex should be allowed to abandon our society norms and ignore basic biology.

I feel terrible for the confused kids, but often times that's all it is. In which case all we're doing is encouraging this type of behavior.
And I can't stress this enough: If a born-male decided god got his plumbing wrong and wanted to join my daughter in the locker room, I'd be front and center at that school demanding to remove him/her. That's the part you don't understand. I don't need statistics to justify my concern. It's wrong even without an incident of rape. It's wrong.

So. Sorry about that extra appendage where you think your vajayjay should be. But don't make it everyone else's issue.


Btw, doesn't the worlds most famous tranny still like women?
So we'll be sending Caitlyn Jenner, a male athlete, into the womens room. With an apparent desire for women. And you think it's preposterous to think it's a recipe for disaster.

](*,)



Come on tail... you're going in all sorts of different directions now.

First... "basic biology".As we get more information, we are learning that gender and sexuality goes way beyond "basic biology". You only have to go as far as the androgen receptor failure to see how societal norms regarding one's "basic biology" isn't going to have any impact on how a person identifies themselves. There are amazing functions of the brain we have very little understanding of, and both existing evidence and simple logic suggests that most individuals deciding they are not what their "basic biology" dictates isn't on a whim or confused. That being said, some small percentage, especially in youth when hormone levels are fluctuating, may have trouble understanding how they identify. In some cases, given hormonal fluctuations, they may not even be confused... depending on how much of what hormone is expressed they may actually feel as if they belong to a different gender.

Second... what exactly is your concern about a transgender in the locker-room with your daughter. I really need you to be more specific than "It's wrong"... one can't have a constructive conversation about a topic with "it's wrong". More pointedly, the only response to an argument of "it's wrong" is "it's right", which I find to be an irritating argument as well.

Third, you're starting to bring in sexual attraction. This is a fun part of the argument, because the only end result of "Caitlyn Jenner shouldn't use the women's locker room because she still has a desire for women" is that we have a "women's" "Men's" and "Women's golf" locker rooms. I actually think this is an interesting solution, to simply separate based on who you're attracted to.... if you want to have sex with peens, go in one locker room (regardless of what you're packing), if you want to have sex with vayjayjays, go in the other locker room (again, regardless of your equipment).... It wouldnt solve your problems, but would be hilarious.
gummy jones
10 years ago
We are at the mercy of the politically correct and the statistically insignificant outliers

What the hell happened and what the hell are we so afraid of?

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