adroomi:
"I'm sorry about your cancer and your stitches. However I doubt that that is what stopped
you from joining the service as a kid."
What "stopped" me from going into the service was the hunk of flesh they cut out of my
a** to remove a rather nasty polinidal cyst that decided to show up at the tender age of
18. It was a wound that took three years to heal all on its own. Not long after, cancer
struck.
If you saw the scar that runs down from the bottom of my chest, to the top of my crotch,
you'd understand why I am in poor physical condition to join the military.
"Now..my point about you not speaking for the military, is that you are trying to say that
those that are against the war are bad guys, and that all servicemembers are for it."
I never said "all service members." I said that for every 1 service member you find that
dislikes the war, I can find 2 that support it. There were a lot of people in WWII that
hated the war, but kept fighting anyways because they inherently knew the consequences of
retreating in front of the Japanese and the Germans. Secondly, as far as wars go, this
current conflict pales in comparison, by far, then either WWII, WWI, the Civil War, the
Korean War, or any other war you can think of. We have nowhere taken the amount of
casualties that were racked up on any of these other conflicts. Yet, if you listen to
the war's detractors, this is THE most appalling conflict, ever. We're fighting this
with both hands tied behind our backs, hopping on one foot, blindfolded.
"I say BS. That is exactly what DrPeps point is. You're trying to paint a picture of
anti-Iraq war folks as anti-military. It don't work that way."
Some aren't anti-military, and maybe you're not, but a large number of these anti-war
people are radically anti-military and anti-America.
Saying you support the troops, but don't support the war is akin to saying "I support the
workers at Toyota, but I refuse to buy they cars." Workers at Toyota need for people to
buy cars in order for them to be gainfully employed. Secondly, the troops over there are
doing a job that they voluenteered to do, and it's been proven now, time and time again,
that NOT supporting a war where US troops are deployed is tantamount to helping the enemy.
One prime reason why Lee invaded the north during the Civil War was to force the North to
sue for peace. It was well known by the military of the Confederacy that there was no
way the South would be able to win a protracted war against the north. Additionally,
there were many in the Northern states that were pushing the Lincoln administration for
armistance – in fact, armistance was the platform of the Democratic party during that
period of time. Thus, it was thought that if the war was brought to the north, that the
vocal pacifists there would scream even louder for a seccessation of hostilities. Thus,
the thriving anti-war movement of the North emboldened the enemy to attack. And this is
just one of many examples where "I support the troops, but I don't support the war"
brought about an escalation of hostilities. There are more…many more.
"In regards to me saying that as a young teen in the military I was clueless, how does
that make me look bad?"
Your Post:
"Most of them, under the rank of buck sergeant, in regards to world affairs, are in fact
quite dim-witted."
Somehow, unless you're multiple people, "them" does not qualify as "me".
I'm not apt to calling someone who walks around with a fully-loaded saw, and making split-
second life-and-death decisions "dim witted". And I think that there are many on this
board, who already have a woody when it comes to jumping on you, who would LOVE to take
umberage with your comments. I'll let it pass.
"It wasn't until I was much older that I realized what was really going on. Those bad
guys weren't screaming 'down with America' when they gurgled for air during their last
breaths...they were screaming for their mothers."
Boo hoo. I wonder what the Kurds screamed when they were being gassed? Or what they were
screaming when people flung themselves from the Twin Towers on 9/11? You're not getting
any sympathy here.
"You try to portray folks that are against war as bad guys, yet you've never high-fived
your buddies, threw up the 'devil horns' salute and cheered in glee at a mission gone
great...as they try not to let their friends see them fighting back sobs of fear after a
firefight than you do? I think so."
This is going to sound a little cold, but bear with me. I had the same thing thrown at
me by one of my friends (who is still a friend, I might add) who was a front-liner in
Gulf War I.
I'm only going to write about this once.
I didn't voulenteer for cancer. I didn't ask to have cancer given to me. They don't
know what causes cancer, and if you ask a good doctor, he'll basically say that while
they know quite a bit about it, they have no definite definition as to what causes cancer
in the first place. And while you hear lots of news stories about things that prevent
it, there is no general way of avoiding this deadly little plague. People who've never
smoked a day in their lives die of lung cancer. People who eat healthy get stomach cancer.
So, when you’re visited by the cancer fairy, odds are you haven't a clue as to how you've
gotten it.
Unlike the flu, where you can outlive the sickening effects, you get cancer, and it's a
pretty sure bet that if left untreated, you’re gonna die. Even if you do treat it, you
may die anyways – that's the breaks sometimes. I've frankly been through stuff that
would curl your toenails. I've done my 30 seconds of sobbing and bleating out "why me",
then I sucked it up from that moment on, showed a little testicular fortitude, and acted
like a man. I've done my fair share of puking, pissing blood, getting fried like pizza
in a microwave, and having parts of my body removed. I've had needles poked into my
bones, meythelene blue dye shot up into the webs of my toes, and other lovely procedures
that I no longer care to remember. I did this all for the sake of saving my life, and I
humble myself by remembering that there are others who have gone through this ordeal
who've had worse. And while my cancer was "easily" treatable (and I say that with some
amusement as they dragged me through hell doing it), it's still a little source of
trepidation to know that the odds of being cured are similar to that of playing Russian
Roulette with a ten-chambered pistol.
And now that I've defeated cancer, I can put this all behind me, right?
Wrong.
No, there's a chance that they very cure for my cancer may give me cancer down the road.
In addition to that, I've got scarring on my heart and lungs, scarring in my esophagus,
problems with my digestive tract, and a thyroid that is slowly dying. I'm at higher risk
for hernia due to the surgeries, scarring around all of my lymph nodes that makes
recovering from the flu or a cold a singular sort of hell, and I have an increased chance
of having a heart attack, stroke, and so on, and so on, and so on. I never know if that
odd lump on my body is the thing that's going to eventually kill me – and I've had a number
of those scares over the years. There's also the pure paranoia of lumps I can’t see, and
therefore can’t find until it's already too late. Since my mid-twenties, I (and my wife)
have been planning our future and finances with an eye out for me not being around in the
upcoming year. I live with the ever-present realization of my mortality day-after-day,
year-after-year, and will continue to do so for the rest of my life.
In short, I live with the stink of the Grim Reaper's breath firmly impregnated in my
nostrils. Most cancer survivors will probably say the same thing.
When a war ends, and a person survives said war, for the most part they can leave that
war behind them. Wounds heal, for the most part (and for a few, they live in my little
world where the physical wounds never really heal). I not so much of a fool to realize
that people coming home from a war are haunted by the memories of that event. I too am
haunted by the memories of my little war, but I get the added bonus of knowing that for
me, the war never really ends. If it shows up again, I can't run to Canada to escape it,
I can ask for a deferment, I can’t file to be a consciensus objector…no there's nothing I
can do to escape it. If follows me wherever I go. So I sit here, day after day, waiting
for that other shoe to fall. It's been like that for many years now, and will probably be
like that until the day I die.
Do I complain about it? No.
I've come to the realization that we all have out little burdens we need to bear in life.
I don't spend my life pissing and moaning that this happened to me, and I try to empathize
with others that are in the same predicament as I. I know that war is indeed hell, and
with a few of my military friends, listen to them talk so that they can get a lot of their
issues off their chest. Not that this makes me a "swell" guy by any means (not do I choose
to portray myself in such a light), or that I'm someone that want's to "feel the pain" of
another. I'm well aware that there are people out there who, by no fault of their own,
are worse off then I, and I try to help when I can. But in the end, we ALL bear a load:
some heavier then others, and some remarkably light.
So, you'll have to excuse me if I get a tad annoyed when someone tries the pluck the heart-
strings of my sympathy.
As far as sobbing after a firefight, my response is: suck it up, and act like a man. If
you're a first-timer, it's understandable. If you're doing it again, get a pair of stones.
Anyone who thinks that you can negotiate with people that find gassing woman and children
acceptable, and like to fly planes into buildings, needs to have their head examined. Yes,
war is terrible. Yes, people die in war. People die from cancer too. People die in car
wrecks. They also die in terrorist attacks. If you think that by NOT fighting over in
Iraq, that this whole 9/11 thing is going to go away, you're wrong again. We weren't in
Iraq when they hit the Khobar towers, and we weren't in Iraq on 9/11/2001. But the enemy
was there then, he's there now, and if we don't succeed they'll be able to take all of
that financing that guys like Osama bin Laden are throwing at the "insurgency" and start
throwing at things like shooting up shooping malls in hometown USA.
So, be "for the troops, but against the war" all you’d like. In the years to come, when
more stuff starts blowing up in America, and more civilians start dying on out home soil,
you can be confident that you took the right stance.