(c&p)

In college and graduate school, I was hesitant to consider spanking as a viable form of punishment. I agreed with all the standard responses to spanking. "Spanking is so barbaric," I'd heard people say. "Doesn't spanking just teach a child how to hit?" others would ask. "I believe spanking is abusive to the child!" some would declare.

True, spanking can be done in a barbaric way, and many children have been physically abused by parents who beat them, rather than spanked them, with the wrong motives and in the wrong manner. However, children will learn how to hit whether they have been spanked or not!

Many other objections to spanking have been raised over the past three decades. And those objetions are raised with good motives; children are very precious to us, and no one wants to see even one child abused. And spanking can be abusive. Spanking that is not done for the purpose of instruction is abusive. Spanking that is not established as a consistent consequence ahead of time is abusive. Spanking done in rage or anger is abusive.

Spanking that is done in a loving and immediate manner, however, is the most effective discipline for the child. Instead of verbally berating the child or delaying the punishment - thus forcing the child to feel quilty and "bad" for a longer period of time - immediate spanking allows the child to feel immediately forgiven. Immediate spanking, a consequence that follows bad behavior, shows the child that it is the behavior that is bad, not the child. --Dr. Bob Barnes

Hm?

'..Where Does Spanking Fit In?..'

-------------------------------------

Usually within the last 60 seconds or so.

"Spanking that is done in a loving and immediate manner"

Usually only if she's drunk or feeling really dirty.

^

^^

[sigh]

I should know better.

What was I thinking...?

If you must spank, please confine it to your monkey.

Thank you.

... never have spanked a child ... never had a reason to ... but I'm not saying it doesn't have a purpose nor am I stating that it shouldn't be done ... but I would suggest it be done with a bare hand... because if you can't tolerate the pain on your hand - then you shouldn't expect them to tolerate the pain on their butt ...

... and God knows ... spanking certainly didn't work for me ... but if my Dad told me he was disappointed in me ... that was the worst ...

If a parent is afraid that spanking will teach their child "how to hit", they can just wait until he/she comes home from their first day of kindergarten. Then they'll already know how.

Never thought spanking was bad. Getting carried away or abusing a child is bad. Much worse damage can be caused by verbal attacks, yelling, or berating a child.

As with anything, if done right and for the right reasons, it is usually okay. Some children learn by the hand and others learn by words - use which ever one gets their attention and keeps it. Just remember not to over do it or do it in anger.

Yes neo, you should have known better. LoL!

Seriously, we "spanked" our son and daughter when they were very young and when they needed some correcting. By spanking I mean a pop on the leg or hand. Just enough to sting a little and get their attention. And only when it was for something really important. For example, the time our son took off running, ignored our calls for him to stop, and almost ran out in fromt of a car. Once they got old enough reason with we stopped spanking them.

spare the rod... spoil the naughty dirty stripper tied up on your bed. Spank away.

I sat through a parenting class several years ago and learned some valuable tips.

Only spank when you need immediate results. Running out in the road, some of that stuff mentioned above.

Time out worked when he was younger but not as effective today.

So instead of Time Out, he holds a can. I make him hold a can of soup straight out in front of his chest with arms locked. Only 1 minute per year old.

I hardly ever spank because I don't have to. My son knows when I've been pushed as far as I can go.

Really guys, try the can approach. Much better than spanking or just the lazy time out.

^ Dang, Mattie. Reminds me of military school. Only we had to use a rifle, not a soup can.

Spank Shovelgrrl

My mom whupped my ass plenty of times and I'm glad she did.

You gotta whup a kid's ass, man. It helps develop the thought process in their brain that makes one think about the consequences of their actions.

It so obvious when you are around kids who get whuppins and kids who don't. My sister's kids get whuppins. I love seeing them and they are well behaved, happy, fun kids. My brother's kids don't get whuppins. I can't stand those mouthy, disrespectful brats.

I spank my kids at least once per week.

a can a soup..?? try a gallon of paint next time....

well, maybe a big can of Chunky soup might work..... or a big can of Hormel Chili....

If you outsmart your kids then you will never half to spank them.

If your kids outsmart you, spanking is the only option left.

"Where Does Spanking Fit In?"

Usually between the screaming and the biting.

been thinking about the can of soup thing..... son is too old now but the next time my wife pisses me off I'm going to make her do it......

^ Lol. Good luck with that one.