Do you pay your kids for either their work around the house, and/or having good grades?

To yo give them an allowance regardless of what they do?

Do you pay them per chore "Son, shave my back and I'll give you a dollar" type stuff?

What do you do?

I do occasionally.

If Delaney wants to buy something, I'll give her jobs for cash. I'm gonna pay for it anyways.....might as well have her work for it.

On the other hand, she'll do anything she is asked for free.

Mine are still learning what their responsibilities are so I won't pay them

I do give my kids he opportunity to decide if they want me to buy cheap crap at the dollar store that breaks after an hour or put the dollar in their bank to save for something better

I'll probably start my daughter on an allowance once I know she can read a chorechart and, of course, provided she does her chores

I guess then I'll have to do the same for her brother, even before he can't read...sheesh

confusing, ain't it?

I never received an allowance, neither did my children.

If they wanted something out of the ordinary (food, clothing, roof over their heads) they would do jobs suited for their age to earn money for it.

No allowance.

No pay for grades because their fulfilling their primary responsibilities in life are reward enough in themselves. However, heaps of praise and little rewards like an ice cream or a Slurpee here and there for great report cards and A's on big tests.

Pay for work beyond their chores.

We encourage them to earn money by selling things (lemonade, collectibles, etc.) and working to earn it from others.

Roof over their heads and food in their gut is payment enough.

I bought cigarettes wit my allowance..

When I was a kid my parents always found extra work for me if I wanted a little extra money. I could do all the weeding for a little $$$ instead of just helping on Saturday for free etc.

When I was a kid I walked around our neighborhood that was mostly still under construction selling cokes to the workers from a cooler I hauled around. I actually made a substantial amount of money at the time (around $150 a day). Ran the lady who sold drinks out of her truck out of the neighborhood, but heck I had a better business model. Put it in CDs and actually paid for my first two years of college from that.

I don't give money for chores, nor do I give them allowance.

We do give them money for grades though.

$10 for every 'A' they get.

Nothing for 'B's or lower.

My younger daughter has had to live with being her sisters "younger sister", especially at school.

At home, she uses it as a competition sometimes. At present, she wants to beat her older sister's ACT score.

Older got a 32. 1st time the younger one took the test (as a practice test instead of the state mandated test) she got a 29, without studying.

As we discussed what it would take to get a 33, she asked if we wanted to bet she could get a 33...

"Sure, how much do you want to bet"

She said $40.

"Yer on!"

Then she bet my wife another $40.

Its provided her with the impetus to improve her study habits that she wasn't getting being bored with HS.

It might not be the best way to motivate a kid, but it works with her.

Never paid my son for chores. I did put his birthday/christmas/whatever money into a savings account for him. I also started putting money in it every payday (when I was in the Navy).

I started with 50, then bumped it to 75 each payday. When he moved out at 18... he had $9,000 in there from him working and me putting the money in there.

Fast forward-- he blew all the money and he's back at home.

#9 great example.

#11....well....not so great.

so the consensus is no allowance...pay for extra jobs/maybe...?

this is good

My son is 15 and never got an allowance. WE got rid of the gardener and my son does the lawn at 75% of the fee. He washes cars, etc. for additional money. I would pay for it anyway, why not to him. I got him a Christmas job at the company I work for. We occasionally provide money for things like batting cages and to help with the cost of a date (a date to the movies costs more than the lawn and the car that week). Once he starts driving, this business model goes to hell. As long as he keeps his grades up, I will provide the gas and insurance money.

I provide an incentive if he is able to increase his GPA to a 3.75.

Ultra Conservative Christian probuilt says, “Beat the **** out of em for every gaff or poor grade.” He recommends a rubber hose, or maybe a car antenna.

Then when they do good the pain stops. Really a neat concept, biblically abiding and all.

Course for you “libs” a little compassion and love.

“Lib” probuilt says make em feel like a family member rather than an employee. Value their contribution and make sure they contribute. Now the value I placed on my kids meager contribution was way over the top. Hell it rivaled CEO compensation for their idea of work, but they did feel like a part of the family and I could ramp up participation as necessary. It became a matter of pride in accomplishment in the end. Never hit the spawn, unless they are smarter than you…………then I guess that’s all ya got!

My little **** are no angels, hell their mine, but they do feel like they can contribute. I am secure that they can make a difference in whatever.

May daughter is getting her BA in the fall and we are thinking of filling a request for a trip to Europe.

Viva la France!!! (for hockey dad)

My son is 3 and I charge him monthly rent, mileage for car rides, and for every frickin' meal. We give him clothes for free and toys are deeply discounted, but even so: he's in debt up to his cute little eye balls.

And he can start working it off when he stops being so damn lazy. I keep telling him: "The oil in Mommy's car isn't gonna change itself, pardner."

ScottHar

^^^

He owes his soul to the company store..

My son has a "school challenge". He gets $1.00 for a test that's 70% or above, and $0.25 for applicibly graded homework. Consequently, he owes me $1.00 for every test below 70%, and $0.25 for the same level with homework.

He also gets a bonus if he has a perfect score ($0.25 / $0.10 respectively), and he gets penalized the same amount for absolute failures on his tests and homework.

I started it in the last card marking of third grade. He went from failing third grade (but got passed on by the recommendation of the psychologist) to pulling "A"s and "B"s in this card marking. Plus, our frustration in getting him to do homework has just about vanished.

At the end of the year, he can spend the money on whatever he wants (within reason). However, initially, my son fronts $10.00 of his OWN money for the challenge. So, he has "skin in the game", so to speak.

The trick of it all is that my son sees the money as freedom.

I should also mention that my kids have a work chart of things they need to do each day. If they meet their minimum tally for the day, they get a treat (candy, 15 mins on the XBox, and so on). If they get five days in the week where they meet their goals, they get a special prize: movie, go out for dinner, etc.

Again, for my oldest son, this was done to offer some organizational guidelines, provide structured habits, and to get him to self-motivate.

While it took some time to get him to do this consistantly, he now does it without me having to harass him into doing what he needs to do.

As a result, our homelife is much less stressful.

Dang you guys must be book keepers, or bookies.

I am impressed but I would've thunk it complicated in my rearing years.