A "friend" of mine has a 13yo son that hit another kid in the face on the bus to school. Now he is kicked off the bus for 3 days....

What would you do?

I would find out first why he did it. It could have been the other kid hit first and it wasn't seen. If he hit first he should have been suspended from school as well. There are usually zero tolerance policies in place.

Drive the kid to school.

Tell your firend to punch the 13yo in the face, then ask them how they liked it.

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Remind them that 3 days of being kicked off the bus isn't anything compared to what they could have recieved: school suspension, expulsion, perminately being banned from riding the bus, or even criminal charges being filed.

What do you mean "What would you do"? What is there to do? The kid will serve his 3 day suspension for punching another kid. Are your friends trying to get him out of his suspension? Why? If you do the crime, you gotta do the time. Sounds like a very good teachable moment for your friends kid.

Cooper- If he is 13 and his only consequence was getting kicked off the bus, he should count himself blessed considering the zero-tolerance policies most districts have now. Some schools would even say it was assault.

And I agree, it wouldn't hurt for the parents to sit him down and find out what happened. Either way, he has to learn to deal with things in a different way or more trouble will be coming. Trouble on the bus is considered a safety hazzard too, especially if it's in motion.

Bummer, but I still say he's lucky he didn't get a bigger problem out of this considering the way things are these days.

also, I know is some places he'd get charged with assault...

Maybe they should have him call a cop..... Tim can you scare the crap out of this guys kid?

"Some schools would even say it was assault."

Well, you hit somebody in the face and it IS assault, right? Some kid hits my kid in the face, it's assault. My kid hits somebody in the face, maybe not so much? Tell him to quit hitting people. He likes to hit, get on the football team.

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Might not be a bad thing, not necessarily being charged with an assault, but being cuffed, tossed in the back of a police car, taken "downtown", tossed in a holding cell for an hour and being told he's going to be charged with something. Give him time to think about things.

If he's a good kid that just made a mistake, it ought to scare him enough to never make that mistake again.

10 was for 7

Agree with Lluvia!

Usually there is more to the story.....maybe find out what REALLY happened to cause the punching. The school is forced to uphold the rules.

Cooper, you want Chief to come take someone's scalp?

Have tomahawk, will travel

Landmines.

Escalate is great!

Thread title speaks for itself......

I believe that violence has some utility value within this age group, primarily it teaches a basic lesson.......getting hit hurts, and hitting hurts other people. You will be upset after you hit someone. Life isn't a video game; striking flesh has real and painful results.

That being said, in today's atmosphere a child who hits someone can get into a lot of trouble.......and carrying this behavior into situations as an adult can ruin your life forever.

I teach my kid(s) never to hit anyone for any reason. In a self defensive situation, I presume that a survival instinct will supersede my policy and my kid will protect herself. That may seem odd, I know.....but I can't trust my kid to determine when it is OK to use violence so I depend on our natural programming to aid the decision.

If this kid were mine, I would punish him; even if he was justified. I would not want him to think it is OK to punch your way out of a situation.

A "friend" of mine has a 13yo son that hit another kid in the face on the bus to school. Now he is kicked off the bus for 3 days....

What would you do?

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If he's only 13, I thnk I could take him. Knock him ouwwwwt!

9. I know. I just meant that the punchee didn't used to file charges

17. LMAO!

Let the other kid punch YOU in the face....he'll feel a lot better.....