How is Johnny doing? Have not had an update in a while.

Hello Mrs. Tank,

Sorry I've been away from the computer for a couple days and just seen this thread...

Johnny I guess is doing alright? he was scheduled for his Therapy's throughout the month of October and he finished up with Therapy the first week of October? His mother and girlfriend along with sisters had been telling him he was smarter then the Therapists and he was convinced he is/was? So with his mothers push he ended his sessions early.. Once a Patient decides this there isn't anything the Therapists can do I was told, I was also told that they (Therapists) had been informed not to speak to me in detail about my Son's progression or lack there of? So what little bit I did get from one of the head Therapists was that they (Therapists) were not happy with this outcome, and one of them had moved Johnny's doctors appointment up to 26 October, instead of his regular scheduled visit with his Doctor in January... she (therapist) let me know she did this because Johnny's insistance of wanting to go back to work, be able to drive etc. and they (therapists) cannot make the final decission on this either way? so she scheduled his appointment so he can get a final ruling from his Neuro Doctor to see about a release? in the meantime his mother took him down and renewed his drivers license, (not going to Alton, nor the proper drivers facility, not telling the agency he has had a TBI recently and would have to go through the proper testing to be able to drive.. Lets hide these FACTS?

I got to visit with Johnny last Thursday briefly while his sister sat in her car, Johnny came by to get his basketball, and this was the first time I had seen him in almost a month... although I have been calling him on a daily basis, many times a day only to get his voicemail. but when I did get to speak with him 'sometimes' his excuse for not answering was that his phone was a POS? that it hasn't worked right since his accident etc. I would always tell him to tell his mother to get it replaced, I many times even offered to take him and get it replaced with the usual blow off of Mom's going to do it? So a little over a week ago he finally did get it replaced as his mother had said to me when I finally started driving over there to want to visit with him. and then for awhile daily we would talk on the phone since.. but I have not spoken to him since last Thursday when he came by.. I've left messages, but unanswered.. maybe because I was outright point blank with him? I gave him copy's of all the bills the insurance had covered so far. and explained to him on what they haven't covered would be his responsibility, I also showed him where my insurance has a co-pay on doctors visits and where his mother had taken him 3 times and did not make the co-pay (which I had explained to her would be do upon each visit?) and I told him his mom should have made these payment Son, because this is something you will be stuck with in the future.. I went on to add that I think his mother thinks that any bills not covered by the insurance will be stuck to me to pay, this is not the case.. it will be entirely his responsibility! and I wanted him to explain this to her.. I also wanted he and I to get together in a month or so and we would go in and talk to this woman I spoke with early on in his accident/recovery.. I then went on to explain to him about why I did what I did with the Guardianship issue and court, he told me he didn't even remember the court event? I told him with Guardianship (the legal one I had set up) he would have had an Attorney/Lawyer assigned to his person and estate (not that he has anything in Estate) but he did have an excellent credit rating, and this attorney would work for him to make sure he wasn't taken advantage of? So then I asked him, do you know where all your personal belongings are? NO? I said well last I knew your mom and girlfriend had moved them into a storage somewhere? I do have your shotgun and bow because they couldn't legally take those items, and they are safe and put away until your ready to have them back.. I went on.. You had asked me why I don't say hi to your girlfriend? I told him that while he was in a coma and during the time he was in the hospital, a whole lotta bull**** went on, one thing.. your Girlfriend was going to move out of your apartment because she couldn't afford it on her own, but she couldn't break the lease... Tina and I had talked to her and at that time she was very upset about this and we explained to her, we wanted her and you to move in with us until you got better and on your feet.. At that time she agreed this would be best etc.. etc.. little did I know your mother and her were already making different plans for you? Tina and I called your landlord and broke the lease.. they allowed you kids to do so because of your accident circumstances etc, and by the end of the month of August/Sept. first you and she were to be moved and getting the deposit back would have been strictly up to whether the landlord could have the place re-rented by then? (they found a renter) So did you see any of this money Son? how much money do you have in your pocket right now? None? Quote: I haven't had any money for along time? I haven't needed any I guess? I said Ok.. So back to why I don't say Hi to your Girlfriend.. your Girlfriend after the lease was broken and we had spoken about all that and you and she moving in with us etc.. Stopped speaking to us (Tina and I) all together, even when I or Tina would say/ask something directly to her? SO you know your dad doesn't play these games and I don't get cought up into all the drama bull****? Yea, well if she wasn't/isn't going to speak to us, then why should I bother or put her in a bad position to make her have to? I/we didn't give her a cold shoulder like she was giving us.. Now I understand she is your GF and I will respect that, but I will not play into little bull**** games... I'm here for you Period... SO I don't think that went over to well later when he explained it back to her and family?

on another note while we visited, I asked him when his Doctors appointment was? he asked me how I knew he had one? I said because I find out things, and I told him I would like to go along with him? this is how I found out what date it was, time I do not know?? I told him that through the day I'd like to come get him and bring him back home to help me in the shop? he said he didn't think he could help in the shop for fear he would cut a finger off on the saw or something? I said I wouldn't let you run the saws or nothing that would harm you.. just have ya hang out with your Dad.. I then asked him if he felt he was unsure of himself about running the saws? Yea, I then said Son are you unsure about running the forklift like you used to do? Yea, I said what about Driving? Yea, I said then why are you in such a push to get back to work? and to be driving again etc.? he say's because they tell me I am OK when I know I'm not, but I've got to get back to work and stuff... I then told him, no you do not.. you do not have to do anything until you are sure of yourself being able to do it Period!!

I let him know that he needs to be honest with his Doctor, and to please not allow his mother to be in the same room with the Doctor and him when he see's him in a couple weeks... I let him know that the insurance was good to go and would cover him until he didn't need anymore visits etc... I also let him know that until he himself was absolutly sure about things.. to not sign himself short.. I explained to him that this is what that attorney for him would have made sure of... I also told him that my door is always open and he could come live with us that he wouldn't be a burden and We would take care of his bills etc... until he's posatively back on his feet...

He told me he would call me this week and we could hang out.. well it's Tuesday and I haven't heard from him since we talked last week?

He's still in my prayers and thoughts daily, hourly! and only God can keep a watchfull eye over him...

I Thank You and All who have held Johnny in your prayers as well!!

He is doing well, but not yet back to being Johnny and this will take some more time...

Hog

I was hoping things were going better. Hope things worked out at the drs. office today.

I will be thinking of you.

Deb

Well, I had to speak to his mother on the phone (Gag) anyways... she told me the Dr. did not release him to drive or go back to work and said he'll see how things look in a couple more months?? Thank You Lord Jesus!

(I think this may be why Johnny hasn't answered his phone or returned my messages?) no matter I didn't and hadn't talked to his Dr.

his mom went on to say she asked the Dr. about doing another scan? and he said that wasn't necisary.. that they will be able to tell just by the how he's reacting and the testing they give him? anyways I suggested he also has his other Dr. and if she wanted to have the scan done and a second opinion from that Dr. to go ahead and arrange it? Sneaky huh? LOL

I'd like for Johnny to have a second opinion from his other Neuro Surgion as well.. and the scan can tell if his blood vessiles are getting back to normal?

all in all... God is still healing John and he still has a road to go before he'll be back to himself again.. I am just praying he takes it easy?? a couple weekends ago when I called him he was playing football? I didn't ask and just assumed it was flag football and not a tackle game in the park.. flag football alone can get pretty ruff....

Thank You for thinking of Us...

God Bless!

Hog

Life is a long journey and even though the road gets bumpy sometimes the trip always ends up being worth it. Hang in there Hog.

Always Trudging forward Jack! thanks for the incouragment tho!

I'll have a good update tomorrow I am hoping? we're going to look at a piece of property that has two homes on it.. Tina and I gave a bid/with contingency offer about a month ago.. and the owners jumped on that... but then it became unsure what/how Johnny was going to be towards myself and Tina... after visiting with him yesterday for about 4 hrs.. taking him by this property and giving him an idea about having his own place as well... he's excited.. we were to go see it today, but his mother and girlfriend have done their best to redirect his plans and we had to cancel and set it up to see the insides tomorrow Again...

he called me about 4 times after our visit yesterday... and I was glad to see he was a bit excited about the option/idea we gave him...

I'll know more tomorrow...

Hog

fingers crossed

Well we got to see the house(s) again yesterday, this time Johnny and his GF made it as well... he really liked it and was excited about the idea, talked about different things he could do with the place as they set it up? I pointed out different things I would need his help with to change or add on... including a basketball hoop, along with security lights (lighting) in the back area... I don't think his GF was excited about the place as much as he was? but only time will tell, We didn't discuss how her actions were towards Tina and I while Johnny was in the Hospital, we didn't discuss anything that had happened in the past period.. we only discussed the posibility's he could have with this place... Wed. Tina and I will discuss and work out the contingency's with Us having to find a buyer for our place, before we can settle into the other, John is still trying to figure out what type of Job he can work, his doctor told him "very light duty" and has not released him to drive yet and defenantly not back to factory work... He is still a bit unsure of his ability's and he said he still gets tired fast...(he's still healing) this will take some time and isn't something I think his mother and sisters and GF are helping him understand?

We'll see what these coming weeks unfold...

Hog

Jonathon goes for an EEG on November 17th 2005. His mother called Russ yesterday saying there was a problem with the insurance or we would have never known about this. Russ called and there was no problem. The child is covered 100%.

They believe he is possibly having seizures. God only knows we hope not. I have been through all this with my own brother who had a TBI from a horrible car accident back in 1988. My brothers was violent grand mal seizures. What they are explaining to Russ, it sounds like Jonathon is having petite grand mal seizures to me.

Jonathon is allowed to stay up all night, out running the streets to the wee hours in the morning, and sleeps all day. Russ is afraid he is drinking. We know for a fact he is back to smoking cigs. The doctors and medical team highly advised against any of this for at least 2 years. You would think a mother would take on the responsibility of being a mother and making sure her son did what needs to be done to recover 100%.

She had all his therapy stopped, saying he no longer needed it. She took him down to the DMV, went around the system, and got his drivers license back. He is suppose to have extensive testing and a release from the doctor before he is allowed to drive. Not in her standards. Just go down and tell them you lost your license and don't mention you can't remember how to get there or get home. Just get your license. You are fine. There is nothing wrong with you....excuse ME!! This child, and yes he is still a child at this point, does not need to be let loose driving around so he can kill some innocent person or himself??

Jonathon called his dad a few nights ago. His girlfriend and him were fighting and he was just wanting to talk. Russ told him he could come over here to the house and hang out with him and Jonathon replied, "Why?" This almost killed Russ. This child is so confused from all the brain washing his mother is doing, it is a shame.

We were actually going to buy a piece of property that had two homes on it so that Jonathon could have a place to live. We took him with us to look at the place. He was really excited about being able to start to get his life back. I thought it would be really good for him and his dad to be able to spend all this time together. At least he would be medically taken care of if he was near us. A few days later he calls and tells us he would not stay long if he did move in. He is going back to work at the factory???? Blow smoke up our A$$. There is no way he can go back to work without a release from his doctor. Who is kidding who?? His mother is an idiot!!

Sorry for not keeping everyone updated. We are just about up to our eyebrows in disgust with all of this. We have fought this horrible evil to try and save this child and it seems, the harder we try, the harder it is just turned around and shoved back down our throats. We are not looking for any credit, just a son to recover and get his life back on track, the right way. We as parents want to make sure his is medically taken care of. That he is ready, by medical aspects, to re-approach all life has to offer. As decent parents, you want to make sure he is capable of making sound decisions before you turn him loose again. He may be 21 years old by his birth certificate, but he is not mentally capable of making a sound decision. So why in the world would you want him out running the streets and not worry about him?? How can you look at yourself in the mirror and not be disgusted with yourself??

We have exhausted all legal aspects that our government has to offer. We have exhausted our monetary funds to the point of almost ruining ourselves on lawyers. Funny thing is, our lawyer, who has a reputation of never loosing a case and charges the fees that would make you think he is the best, has done nothing except humiliate us in the process. This last court appearance we made, he acted like he was a complete idiot. He took us for thousands and I think was laughing all the way to the bank! This system is so crooked that unless you are a crook and brush shoulders with only crooks you can forget receiving any kind of justice..HA That is a word that has no meaning left. JUSTICE! Money talks and justice walks in my book. So does getting on your knees and sucking your way to the top!! Sorry..I have really had it with all this crap.

The most important thing out of all of this is...Jonathon is still alive and has a second chance that most of us do not get. I just hope he will appreciate this chance and make the best of it once he is capable of knowing right from wrong.

Thank you everyone for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers.

Mrs. Hog

To the Hogs,

I only wish that I had parents alive like you. My mother is deceased and she had the spunk that ya'll exibit. May you be blessed for your efforts to overcome these trials and please know that you THREE are in my prayers.

Mark

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.

Well, I got to spend the day with Johnny Yesterday... we had a Great day together.. and he wasn't in any big hurry to head back home to his mothers...

we went out anc cut firewood and loaded up the truck and just hung out together the whole day...

He's doing ok, but could/should be allot better...

He had his EEG done Wed. and the results are not back yet.. but he's been complaining of massive headaches and his eye's fluttering.. this has been off and on for about a month and a half... he was also explaining that he feels his body twitch in different area's at different times and when he asks his mom or Girlfriend if they see it.. they just laugh at him and tell him he's nutts... I explained to him that the Insurance will cover 100% and the next damn time he starts feeling all weired inside to have his mother get him into the ER ASAP...(I'll have to call the B!tch and express this once again to her) Tina said the EEG will tell if he's been having any types of Seizures, even if they have been a couple weeks or months back?

He is very compulsive on wanting to know exactly what happened prior to his accident? and is all he can talk about... there were 3 other boy's involved in this nights events.. and he's been told that he and another boy were racing when the accident happened.. but he's having dreams about it.. and up to the time he lost control of the bike everything has been clear to him and keeps repeating over and over as a dream... his mom, sisters and girlfriend are going nutts because this is all he keeps discussing with them.. and he told me yesterday.. Dad, once I know the Truth I will shut up about it and I'll be able to rest better...

I can understand where he is coming from as well.. So I told him we would go over and talk to all these other boy's and see if they'll come clean on what really happened?? he said he and his GF already talked to one of them, the one he was suppose to have been racing, but his GF was with him and the two of them went on talking about other things rather then what happened that night? I told him, Son your gf called Chris and b!tched him out telling him it was all his fault and bla bla bla BS... So Chris probably didn't feel comfortable discussing anything around her? I damn sure wouldn't...

Johnny can recall he supposidly lost his glass's and turned around to go get them.. as Chris supposidly pulled off the road and waited for Johnny to find them.. inbetween all this Johnny's GF called him and he said he was looking for his glass's and he'd call her back (I think this is/was a lie personally) I found John's cell phone and the last call on it was from Chris at 11:07 pm... the police were on the scene at 11:32... then last night his gf came to our house to pick him up.. and he was still asking questions.. and asked her, how did she call him and him tell her he lost his Glass's when he was supposidly looking for them, with his motorcycle running, he said I don't answer my phone when I'm on the bike? she couldn't answer him and was getting kinda edgy... she diverted the question by telling him this is all you talk about and said she knows she talked to him then and that was the last time they spoke.. I said well son, you need to get your cell phone bill and look up the numbers of who you spoke to that night.. I had told him earlier in the day I had spoke to him about 10:00 pm and he had me look up something on the internet for him. and I asked him how things were going with him and his GF and if he was still planing on moving out that coming weekend? and he said Yes..

Johnny also knows and has expressed a thousand times over that IF he was going to be horsing around racing and ****.. he would have had his Helmet on and not glasses as everyone was saying and that the road it happened on he wouldn't have been doing what was said anyways because he didn't know the road that well.. were he expressed another road the boy's always went out to test their bikes and skills on (Raced On) Always he said.. We knew that road well and had done it hundreds of times...

So needless to say, I am going to hook up with Johnny sometime this coming week or weeks and we're going to go speak with each one of the boy's who were involved in this event one on one with no GF interferance...

one thing that struck me odd was his gf's comment last night about Chris had to lie to Johnny because if he didn't and if Johnny would have died Chris would have been ticketed and gone to jail?? what the hell for? it was a single person accident and no one but Johnny was at fault? So now I want to know myself.. along with putting the peices together for my Son so he can move on and heal with his life...

I also told him to print off the information on the methylcobalamin Vitamin B12 Heather sent to Tina and I while back.. and take that to his next doctors appointment.. his mom told him that he couldn't take anything along with the Excedren PM he's been taking for his headaches.. I said Son, this is a vitamin that will help you and you can take it.. whatever your body doesn't use it will piss out.. So make sure you print that out and take with you to the Dr's... and make sure your mom sets up an appointment for you to get the results from the Dr on the EEG readings.. that way you can give him this information.. and for damn sure if you have to start taking medication for possible seizures.. it's not some expermental crap...

We'll see!

Hog

12/20/2005

My Christmas Present from the Lord Above...

Johnny Was fully released from the Doctor today.. for the past week and a half he and I have been going around to the different agency's and collecting all the information on what his mom has/had been doing with him.. Public Aid, Social Security, State Department of Rehab Etc...

Johnny's Mom has Guardianship as of right now, we went to the courthouse after his release from the Doctor today and tried to get this revoked by the Judge, well we've got to do the proper paperwork etc... (My Ass, His Mom didn't have to she just phoned the Judge and lied to him) anyway we got the paperwork and their is one form that his mom can just sign and Johnny can walk it through the courts without her even having to be there... he and his Sister are at his mom's at this hour 2:21 AM..right now trying to get her to do this??

He has a Job interview Thursday Morning... and applying for college so he can finish up his credits for his welding certificate (oldest sister is going to help him with his FASTFA and get it in "hopefully in time?")

He has some heavy medical bills he is going to be facing.. His mother the entire time she was caring for him did not pay one dime towards his bills.. she and her Boyfriend spent up all his assistance moneys... the day of Thanksgiving his Mother left him for two weeks and lied to all three kids about where she was at and what was happening with her... She some how lost her State Job of 13+ yrs? and now is on Unemployment... She isn't looking for a Job Locally and had spent those two weeks in Minnasota with her BF and supposidly looking for a Job up there?? she also just returned last night after another week up there so she could take Johnny to the Doctor today, Now she has told Johnny she is leaving to go back Thursday and told him to take enough clothes with him because she did not want him in her Apartment while she was gone.. his sister has been recieving checks from the State for Caring for Johnny and prior to his sister recieving this assistance money his mom's live in Boyfriend was getting these checks.. in the meantime Johnny's Motorcycle was Repo'd do to lack of payments after 90 days and a promise to pay by her to the bank!

His co-pays for doctors visits have been adding up because she did not make payment when she took him in initially to each visit... and he is also facing a left over balance from his Stay in ICU/Emergency etc. of around $3600.00, his cell phone bill that his mom,boyfriend,sister and her boyfriend signed onto his policy is running him $363.00 this month and next months will be coming out after the first of the month...

SO he told his mother today he was cutting off her phone, her boyfriends phone and told his sister and boyfriend they need to get their own plan and transfer off of his... She through a B!tch fit and told him that's it she is done helping him.. she also told his sister that she was also done helping her if she did not turn over the last check she got for assisting Johnny... Johnny had already asked his sister to PLEASE not give that check to his mom, that he needed it to open up a savings/checking account and get started again in life... she promissed him she wouldn't...

My Ex Wife has manipulated my Kids all their life and I am affraid this is going to happen again this time??

My Oldest called me tonight also crying and asked me if I could help Johnny and Tara? I already assured her that is exactly what I am trying to do...

GOD Not Only has healed My Son and Saved him from Death just a few months ago.. but in his Time he has healed him and really opened up my Childrens eye's to what their mother has been doing to them all these years...

I lost my kids many times throughout the years because of these Games their mother has played and now it is sad to see this But with time God has opened up their eye's to the Truth and from here I can grow and have that relationship with all 3 of my children.. although I missed 7 yrs of them growing up... we all have a lifetime left to enjoy as a Family!!

If you don't believe in the Powers of the Man Upstairs... your missing the boat Brother(s)/Sister(s)!!

God Bless!! and Merry Christmas!! All....

Hog