I would like to understand something. Since I am newer to cigars and forums why do people continuosly post their misfortunes on a forum. I would think one has family and friends to turn to in a time of need and if not what does that say about ones character.
Now if my close family member where ill this would be the last place I would post about it. I would come here to take mind off it for a brief moment not spark more thoughts about it.
If some misfortune happened and there is a benefit or charity of some sort then yeah I get it spread the word. Honestly though friends and family are what you should lean on in a time of need not a handle on a forum.
shaun341 wrote:
Well, in Busa's situation, the family is what's causing the stress. Everyone is already overwhelmed in their own right, so this is a place that isn't quite so "close to home." Saying that posting here means that he has no "real" friends is kind of presumtuous and (rude word deleted.)
In other cases, the disinterested third party is what you need. In still other cases, a person sometimes just has to get something off their chest. On a forum, with a handle rather than a name with a bunch of relatively anonymous, faceless handle-wearers who don't know you from adam...you still get human feedback and responses, but it's not *personal.* People you'll probably never meet in your lifetime are kind of "safe" in that way.
Then again, there are just as many that we haven't met yet but speak to on the phone, in text/ IM, on FB... the world has gotten very small. Different kinds of friendships in the world today - and that's not necessarily a bad thing. It's fine if it doesn't suit you, but you shouldn't judge people who feel differently.
In the broader scope, I don't think there's such a thing as an inappropriate place to ask for prayers for ANY reason. I have family and friends who have prayed for kids in amber alerts, troops overseas, etc., whom we have never met and only heard of through electronic media. I certainly don't have a problem adding someone who posts here about a FIL or grandchild who has cancer or a heart condition or whatever.
Much the same way that you seem to think that someone who posts problems here must have poor character and no friends, I think that telling someone to go bother their REAL friends with their problems and don't ask me to pray for them or even tell me about them speaks about ones character as well. I think it's wonderful that we have the ability to connect with people on many different levels these days.
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