8track, I don't feel bad and I don't think you should either. Most thread starts here are open-ended invitations to the kind of stuff we usually see. None of us should have stopped from the opener to consider that maybe this was about something that heavy. I won't worry about it, and I don't think you should, either. Who would you blame if someone pushed you blindfolded into a spinning fan blade, yourself or the guy who pushed you?

If you're intent on starting a serious discussion about a serious topic here, you should say so at the outset, not just dance around it or not leave the comment or question so open-ended that your real reason for posting in the first place is so deeply hidden. Most people that frequent the CBBB wouldn't take a run at slamming you if you're honest about your intentions up front and make it clear it's a serious inquiry.

8track, the original post was about as much of a red flag as your asking people what was the best concert they ever saw. Don't lose any sleep over your reply.

I'm good, but thanks Pacman.

Lawyers are evil.......... unless they have your back. THEN its a whole new story.

:)

About a month ago, I would have laughed at this tread. Today, it carries a bit more weight.

Be honest with your spouses. Communication is the key to a successful marriage. My wife has been living a seperate lifestyle for the past year. I found this out, just about a month ago. I had no idea. Now my life is taking a change in direction I would have never guessed would happen.

8track- you are a jerk. lol

pac- everything you said is true, but read his second post. something about having troubl talking about it. i am probably not going to lose any sleep over what i said, but felt the need to apologize for kicking a guy while he's down, even if i diddn't know he was down. i'm a nice guy like that.

nine

Understood. That's why I never ventured down that road. My ex kept expecting me to cheat on her because, she thinks, that is what men do. I told her that if the marriage is at a point where I am seriously considering such a move, then maybe the marriage is in serious trouble, and I'd have to think about ending the marriage before crossing that line. Got tired of the unspoken accusations, among other things, and when I caught myself tempted one day I realized that was the last nail in the coffin and filed for divorce.

Been happily married to the second wife for 11 years now. Had my chances, but never been tempted. I wouldn't want to go through what the original poster of this thread is going through, nor would I want to do that to my wife. I bet it's hard as hell for anyone involved to deal with.

notyours-

so where are you today? how is life? need someone to talk to?

nine

yes..I use to ..until i found out my wife was screwing my best friend..and found out how much it hurts. After pretty much trying to put myself to death with alcahol, fast motorcycles and fast women..i decided NEVER AGAIN would i keep any secrets. I would would not be with a woman again until i found one i could be 100 percent myself with. I have found that if someone lets me be me..there is no need for secrets.

sorry for your loss. you will get better, time will heal, your mind will open again, and your eyes will once again see without hurting. Remember that and every day seems to get a bit simplier!! good luck my friend

v

9=CBBB's Dr. Phil. Just kidding, I know you mean well. Jus' havin' a lil' fun.

pacman- you're a jerk too.

thats it- im not posting here anymore...

Ok, I have a secret.

Nine keeps sending me shirtless photos of himself to my email account, daily. It was okay for the first couple months. Now its getting a little weird.

Nine............. NINE!

5. Author: lofty1 Date: 07/12/2006 01:45 PM Reply

did someone's wife get an account on cbid without telling her husband?

YES, but that was two years ago. I know she is there now.

Come back, nine. I'll play nice. Mostly.

Pacman....just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy your company. Glad you stopped by and joined us.

Carry on.

no way- i'm done. and the pictures were supposed to be a secret!

nine

I'm okay but the guilt will always harbor me. I don't look at women the same. I look at the one I had with much respect. if it makes your lady uncomfortable don't do it. We peek cuz we're bored & it doesn't make it right. remember how you felt when you 1st saw her. dress her up. take her out. get off the computer and enjoy your lives together. cheap peeps aren;t worth losing your loved ones over. take it from me, if i had to do it all over again I wouldn't. simple. respect your ladies. their worth it. My wife was the most important person to me and I hurt her deeply. If I had only listened to my own words - I'm a teacher and I always remind the kids that "for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction".

I apologize for my shocking story. you don't know me and I'm new to the messages. I just usually read em not respond. I thank you all for your concerns. I;m a good guy - I was just stupid and made a mistake.

that is real tough dude.........but out of curiousity, what exactly is "cheating on the internet?"

If it is what I think it is, my wife would probably laugh at me and then bitch about my kleenex consumption.

as we all do.

regularly...

take care, and take one day at a time. stop by every now and then, and like i said- if you ever need to talk at somebody...

nine