I just want to share this with you all. Today a close friend of mine came to visit. Just out of the blue he drives 5 hours from Biloxi MS to Memphis TN just to come see how I am doing and to hang out and smoke a few cigars together for the day.

A little background on this guy:

He is ex military, he was in both gulf wars and also was in on the "War on Drugs" Campaign. He flew on the C130 keeping the fuel levels equal in both tanks in order to keep the plane balanced so it would not crash basically. After his years of service he went into the medical field, worked and helped with a surgeon that was responsible for pretty much inventing the standard patient of care for electromyograms in the operating room which is used in monitoring spine surgeries now all across the United States. This guy was also responsible for training me for my career and also got me started in the field.

He has vouched for me twice in obtaining a job with two different companies and made it possible for me and my family to have been able to travel all around the US while doing my job prior to my stroke. Needless to say I have nothing but the of most respect for this guy and feel that I owe him a great great deal. Now, my buddy owns his own business and supplies intranoperative monitoring service for all hospitals in the Biloxi and Gulfport region in MS.

Now for my son who is 22 years old, He works for FedEx on the tarmac at the World Hub here in Memphis. Him and his girlfriend live here with my wife and I. I have tried to raise him as a man and teach him on what I think a "Man" should be, which yes, is a matter of opinion. He loves to hunt, fish ect typical stuff but sometimes flat out lazy, rude, disrespectful ect as a typical young man in what I see in today's times.

The male bonding ritual:

Today I thought it might do my son some good to hang out with the boys while we talk business and let him experience the male bonding ritual. Networking in such a way can help in life so much, as it had with me in my career, not only with this guy but also with every surgeon all across the US that I have ever had the pleasure to work with.

It has also gained me friends such as this fellow that would drop everything to come to my need if I or my family should call. It was him that my wife called while I was in recovery with my heart surgery having hallucinations. It was him that figured out what the problem was and guided my wife in fixing the issues with the overdose of meds they was giving me. This guy will be one of the few men that will help carry my pine box to the hole when that time comes.

Shame Time:

So we are out in the garage and my son smoking his first cigar and being guided by my buddy on how to cut, light ect and I have to admit I was proud. He followed instruction very well. I would have been able to take him to the local cigar lounge and hang out with the guys and not worry about "saving face" My son took his time while smoking and was not chugging it down like a starving mad man. Also to my surprise he was enjoying it.

Now here is where my brain exploded in awe. My son looks over to my buddy and says. I have a question. Now keep in mind again, my son works on the tarmac for Fed Ex and is 22 years old. Me being interested in what he is going to ask, I am listening very closely to every word. He ask my buddy this and I quote "Do you have to have a license to fly commercial a plane?"............ 😰 I almost dropped my cigar. My buddy, just kind of freezes and then slowly turns and looks at me like I have a 3rd arm growing out of my ass. All I could do was hang my head and say "Yep I have failed as a father"

Knowing my buddy I knew what was coming and I was thinking ok here we go [sarcasm] .... He looks at my son and says "Nope, you just go down to the local car lot, buy you a plane and fly the f*cker home." he then tells my son "look you are 22 years old, you have been driving a car since the age of 15, you work loading some of the largest planes for one of the largest shipping companies in the US at the WORLD hub no less, so I am going to give you 3 minutes to think about that question then you tell me... Do you think you have to have a license to fly a commercial plane here in the US." Thank GOD my son said "yes".....](*,) 😣 ](*,)

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Ewok

You have not failed. Sons will continue to amaze at least until they are 30 years old. About the time you think the son in question is well grounded, out of no where comes a WTF was that. Could be verbal or some high school-ish behavior. I would not worry to much.

Son and girl friend living at home, maybe time to worry.

he was probably just trying to make conversation

1) You have not failed.
2) Don't sweat the little things.
3) The answer at the end was more important than the initial question.

I will admit, the two living at home has brought me some worry. Granted he is my son and I do want the best for him. What scares me about it is I see no drive in him, He is kind of like water in taking the path of least resistance. Had a free ride to college and pissed that away because and I quote "I dont like the professor" There was the WTF moment. But, its his life right 🤔 lol.....

Very very true Speyside, I think it might have been a small learning moment for him. Granted an embarrassing one but one none the less.

That is possible Gummy, Most of the time his conversations consist of video games and vape devices and not much else. He could have just been out of his comfort zone.

you will always be his father and have a role to play so long as you want to

Very very true and that will never change as long as I am able. I will have to admit we all did get a laugh out of it. He was able to take a little jabbing at his ego and he was able to give it back to us with out getting all pissed off which I will admit, is a huge change for him and a good one in my eyes.

Prolly just high

Definitely failed. Sorry. Hope you have another better one.

It could be worse, your son could be down by the river having a three way with Vic and ZRX in his van.

Bwahahahah there is no telling with that boy.

Oh but hell no, Another one, not this old boy.

Very very true, Not that it would bother me all that much of him having a three way with Vic and ZRX, but if you seen his girlfriend, You slap the **** out of him just for giving that up for Vic and ZRX lol. No offense guys but I know she's a hell of a lot better looking than you two lmaoooo....

Hey... I'm very very good looking.

Some might say I'm quite a catch.

LOL I would not doubt that one bit but the girlfriend is 23, pretty hot looking, works hard and shes got double J breast. Him being a 22 year old male. I would kick him in the nuts if he trades down lol.....:-#

Oh... he likes big boobs eh?

He's gonna have to trade up to drafter then... he's got a pair of tits on him that'd make dolly parton jealous.

Bwahahahahahaha..... Ok I just choked on my drink.