Today is my 26th wedding anniversary.

A bit more than a year ago, my wife and I had reached a very low point in our marriage. As we were working through stuff, I found myself with time on my hands. And, by coincidence, my orbit happened to intersect with a BOTL.

He introduced me to the amazingness of just sitting and being while having a cigar. (I had no clue what a good cigar was at that time. You all helped me on my journey of figuring that part out.)

It turned out that a good part of my contribution to our marital low point was my inability to "turn off" after coming home from work. I am very work/profession/career focused. It is just how I am wired. And when I remained focused on work after I came home for the evening, I was not present. I had lost connection. Stuff built up over the years and we reached a critical point.

So as we worked through our stuff, and as I was exploring cigars, I discovered something magical. If I take an hour (plus or minus) a few days a week after work to enjoy a cigar on the front porch, I am able to unpack and unwind about work. By taking this time for myself, I found that I had the ability to become more present in my marriage. Funny how that works.

So here we are, more than a year later. I have a packed wineador and two tote-sized tupperdores that are nearing capacity. And we are happier now than we have ever been.

It is a guy thing to suck the nuts into the body cavity and just get to work. Get down to business. Focus, endure and not give up until the job is done. But for me, there was a price I was paying that it took a little crisis to discover.

I still go all @ssholes and elbows when it comes to work. But now I have the most amazing way to turn that off and be present when I am home.

Today is my 26th wedding anniversary. And I am incredibly grateful. Thanks, my friends.

cool story!
Happy Anniversary...was the botl a Red Sox fan?

Happy anniversary my friend

Yep!

Double the pleasure and add a cocktail🍹🍸🍷🍺

Happy Anniversary Brother! I'm glad things have turned around for you both.

Thanks, Gents! It's been a great smoky ride, so far.

😎

Congratulations on 26 years

Happy Anniversary my man and grats on on 26 years. A great message in your story. It is amazing how sometimes the most simplest of things can do and mean so much. All it takes is an open heart, an open mind, and a damn good cigar lol.

Congrats! Great story! Makes me even happier about what I sent in my part of the trade!

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You sent him a 2 boxes of Gurkhas didn't you Hank lmaoooo [gonzo]

(It ended up being a great anniversary gift. Thanks, Hanks!)

Here is my write-up of what Hank sent:

http://www.cigarbid.com/Forum/c/posts/655079/Hank-the-Tank-Spanks 

That would have been hilarious!

Congrats NW!. Always good to hear when couples can work their issues out instead of just bailing on it all.

+1 =d>

Congrats to you and especially to your wife. Marriage is full of give and take issues. Sounds like you have a great partner to work with.

So it is safe to say cigars have changed your life for the better!

Happy Anniversary!!




i didnt read any of that