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OMG...my daughter, my first born, is moving out to her own house tomorrow...

This is a first for us...I'm not sure how to feel.

I'm so excited for her - spreading her wings and all...but I feel nauseous (maybe nauseated is a better word, but I'm no English major! But I digress...)

I'm fearful of all of the things that could go wrong...of course...and know that those same things could happen here at home as well. But rational thinking was never at the top of my list...and emotions are definitely rearing their heads.

I'm sure she'll be fine...just had to get this off of my chest...




Hmmm...I wonder what her old room would look like re-painted...and maybe I can tear out that bookcase...oh, and look at all of the closet space I've gained!!!

I'm over it! Gotta go redecorate!


LOL!

Children, can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em...Marla

Right on LIZ!

With a kick ass humidifier...not letting THAT box dry out...LOL!

Things for turning the light on...Marla

Yo E-Chick: She will do great! After all look at the stock from whence she was born. JonR

I agree with hog on the room Marla, your not going to touch a thing! But I also can't help you, see.. The oldest of the "4 little People" is 13 and I feel like each morning I get up I have to paint my "Blue" BraveHeart face on! She is good but what a stage to go thru! And just think her younger sister is 10 !! With 2 boys in between?!?!?! OO yes here come the fun years :)
Smoke'em If you Got'Em and I know You d

i never gave it much thought, but maybe your kids leaving home is like a second birth. i can see how it would dredge up all kinds of emotions, thinking about how this young adult -- your "baby" -- will survive in that big, bad world and all.

well, a couple of thoughts for you -- first, i'm sure you and the hubs have given her a solid upbringing to prepare her for all that's out there. secondly, though there is a lot of skeeeeeery stuff out there, there are also folks out there as kind, generous, loving, protective, chivalrous, etc. as the people here on cbid.

it's difficult, but i bet that you and she take your mom/daughter relationship to a whole new (and great) level. i'll keep you guys in my prayers, and may she encounter the best humanity offers.

-antonio

p.s. you're right; it is "nauseated" :) (i was an english major among 3 others) lol most folks don't know that nauseATED is the correct form to use; kudos to ya for knowing that. gold star!

After reading some of your
threads on the forum,

I can't see how your kid could fail !

I hope she is a chip off the block !

Good Luck to Her

i love my kids more then life itself, but when they started to move i changed their rooms. one is toby's i don't know what room, the door is always closed. the other has my work out equipment. i removed all the doors except the bathrooms and toby's secret room.

they had become adults and they were on their own, no runnig home to the old folks if life wasen't working they way they expected. come over and visit, we'll talk and if you need a few bucks ok, but no more room at the inn.

i don't think my kids were any better then other kids that move out, and it's always too early, but they have to make do just like i did.

on the other side, a friend of mine had her three over 18 daughters move out and return with their baby's. all three of them. mother and dad live upstairs and the new mothers and their babies live down stairs rent free.

guess who has the new cars. guess who come and go as they want. guess who is raising the babies.

if you raised your daughter properly, and i'm sure you did, she will be ok, live long and prosper.

the children do not belong to you. you are simply feeding and protecting them until they are able to themselves.

Ok, so Erica's out...

...and didn't even look back!

Good news/bad news:

First the bad - I'm really feeling lost without Erica's presence here at home. You know, like keeping an ear out for that garage door opening when she comes home at night...or going to pick up some groceries, and realizing that I don't need to buy that special shampoo & conditioner or that favorite cereal anymore...or her asking me if a particular outfit looks good for going out or for going to work...or fighting about who's turn it is to use the computer...

:(

But the GOOD news is - Mike and I raised a confident, independant, good natured, smart kid.

At 18, she has a good job. She owns her own home. And even though I have always been a total open perv and speak frankly and openly about sex (I guess it's taught her how wonderful a comitted marriage can be), she isn't promiscuous or pregnant. She's not shacking up (boy, am I dating myself with that one) with a guy. Her car is paid for. I've personally taught her the perils of having a credit card - several times. And she knows that she'll get some furniture...eventually, when she can afford it. And she's ok with that.

Thanks for the words of wisdom here...I need to get it out...WAAAAAHHHHH!

Marla

*grin* marla, it takes many moms a lot more time than you did to figure this one out! :)

of course, there is a lot more to it than that, but that is a pretty common addition to all the emotions floating around when a child grows up and moves out.

something to think of, though -- you're still her mother, and she will ALWAYS need you. she might try like hell not to come running to you for support -- a good word, advice, just plain ol' love and stuff -- but i wouldn't doubt that this will change soon.

i was on my own by the age of 16 and didn't have a good relationship with my parents AT all (very abusive). though i was mature for my age and took care of myself totally independently, i wished more than anything that i would have had parents i could turn to for advice and support. she's lucky that she has a mom she can turn to, though she may not want to do it right away. she still needs you, though!

:)

Bad Ethan...

And Marla...you will be fine...and your daughter will be fine...thats what you gotta believe...

RasDas

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