I gave my kids subtle hints on behavior, they turned out okay.
When they got out of line I would say things like... "do that again and I'll rip off your arm and beat you to death with the bloody end!
Or,
"I'm gonna give you away to a gipsy family!"
Only had to resort to the belt a couple of times.
My dad reminded me of gunny Hartman in Full Metal Jacket.
I have three brothers and two sisters, the original "wild bunch".
A good many parents today seem to think its okay to allow their kids to run amok, you see them everywhere.
I don't believe behavioral guidance should be delegated to others. If you allow kids to run wild then wild kids is what you get.
Participation trophies are total BS!
Winning is what matters. Kids need to learn early on that it takes effort to be a winner and should set goals for their own success.
Losing is only a temporary setback and should be seen as motivation to improve instead of rewarding failure.