Grizzled.Old.Board.Purest
you are in a room with a bunch of guys.
you are all smoking cigars and drinking booze, beer, coffee.
you are talking about this and that, mostly about women you had, a deer that got away, the flat you had on the freeway,and if you are of the older generation, diabetes, cholestral reducing drugs, and your last blood work.
someone approaches your group and listens for a few moments and speaks.
he tells one of the guys in the group that had been chatting, that he is wrong about something. the guy in the group responds with, "huh" or "no i'm not" or "fu*k off stranger we were talking amongst ourselves." or "sit down and light up. haven't seen you before."
the stranger sits down, lights up and asks some questions to get the tone of the group.
do they tell dirty jokes? do they tell racial jokes? do they discuss politics? are they left wingers in those discussions or are they a mixture of differing viewpoints about how the country should be run? do they all talk together of do they listen while one of them is speaking? what is their language, polite, shouting at each other, hand signals, insulting.
the stranger gets the feel of the group and either wanders away or he likes their language and says his piece using the language of the group.
they meet daily, weekly, monthly and the next time they get togther there are no strangers, just a one person larger group.
and that his how the group grows one by one. they all disagree with each other about cigar wrappers, cello on or off, politics, sports teams, cigar cutters, and pretty much everything to some extent.
what they have in common is their language, not their viewpoint.