Our kids are a blessing. But we've practiced fair, swift, uncompromising, but loving discipline from day one. "No!" can be understood much younger than most think.
The reason 2s are so terrible is because of a failure to restrain them in the 1s. Think of it as an extension of your household safe firearm protocols. Desire is a dangerous weapon in undisciplined hands. You must teach them life's safety protocols.
Discipline is key, I believe, as it is Biblical.
Blessings,
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