daveincincy
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:35:00 AM
Has anyone heard of "The 5 Love Languages?" I'm sure some of you have. Has anyone taken the profile quiz by yourself or with a spouse/significant other? I won't bore you with all the details, simply google "love languages" and "gary chapman" for a description. Actually, it was JadeRose's thread addressed to fathers of teen boys that made me think of this, and I figured I'd pass this info along to anyone that may look at it and benefit from the information you get back from the quizzes between adults, teens, and children. I've taken the quiz before with my wife, and I recently found out they have a quiz for children and for teens. In a nutshell, no 2 people are alike. We all have certain ways of expressing and interpreting love. Whether it be through physical touch, words of affirmation, giving gifts, quality time, or acts of service. Those are the 5 love languages. Men, for the most part, are pretty steady in that their "love languages" don't change much over time. On the other hand, women are constantly changing (or evolving?), and it makes it hard for us guys to keep up with your needs. And if your primary love language is "physical touch," which for most guys it is, it doesn't mean your spouse/SO feels the same way. I go to a small "fathers" group (they should probably call it "husbands") through our church once a week, and this "love language" thing has been brought up a couple of times. The group is made up of single, married, and divorced men, with and without children. Those that have really tried to focus on the primary love languages of their spouse claim to see amazing results. For some of the divorced men who have taken the profile quiz say they wished they had taken the quiz in their previous marriage and maybe things would have turned out differently...many of whom are remarried and have learned from their past mistakes (failures), and have great success (and still the ocassional failure) in their current marriages. Anyway, you can read about this stuff online or buy the book, but I have posted links to the profile quizzes for you to take for your (hopefully) benefit...or entertainment. I encourage you to take a look at it and take the quiz with your spouse/SO, and to also have your child or teen take the appropriate quiz.

Here's a link to a quick overview of the 5 Love Languages:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ 

Love Language description for children:

http://crcpeninsula.org/Five_Love_Languages_of_Children.pdf 

Love Language profile quiz for Children (have your child take it)...save & print it out:

http://crcpeninsula.org/Love_Languages_Children_Guiz.pdf 

Adult quiz/test that can be taken online w/ results tabulated:

http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp 

I have word and .pdf files of most of this if for some reason anyone wants me to email a copy to them to print out. I also have the profile quiz for teens that, for some reason, I could not find online. I found some other profile quizzes, but they didn't appear to be the quiz made by Dr. Gary Chapman...so I left them off to try and stay consistent. Plus, they appeared to be geared more towards teens in a relationship to be taken by boyfriend/girlfriend rather than by a teen boy/girl for a parent to help a parent of a teen(s).

Thunder.Gerbil
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:49:00 AM
herfidore
Thursday, February 18, 2010 6:01:00 AM
I read it when we were expecting our son. Interesting read, although not life changing stuff. It did make me cognizant of the ways in which children give, receive and express love. I'd recommend it to parents.
daveincincy
Thursday, February 18, 2010 6:38:00 AM
If you take the quiz by yourself, see how the results compare to how things are going in your current (or past) relationship(s). Try to guess how your spouse's/SO's love languages will rank...this is interesting when taking it together. I guessed my wife's in order, to a tee, before seeing her results. Of course, that doesn't mean I always speak her "language." My wife thought she knew mine, but she was way off. Try and take the results and speak each other's language. To add to that, a couple of the guys in my group whose primary language was physical touch found great returns in that area when they focused on their spouse's primary language...typically "acts of service" or "quality time."

You can also look up "love languages" on Youtube.

daveincincy
Thursday, February 18, 2010 6:41:00 AM
LOL @ #2. For some reason, I never did get around to seeing that movie.
Thunder.Gerbil
Thursday, February 18, 2010 6:48:00 AM
^

You really ought to. It's freaking hilarious. So many good gags.

lluvia
Thursday, February 18, 2010 4:36:00 PM
hey dave! this is cool...I was going to post about the 5 Love Languages for Children

I have the cd set. It's great!

donutboy2000
Thursday, February 18, 2010 4:53:00 PM
Money talks
DaQueenBeez
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:00:00 PM
Beez and I took the quiz in counseling a few years ago. I scored off the charts in "time" and got a zero in "gifts." WHAT A CROCK! BRING ON THE PRESENTS, FELLA!
pacman357
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:05:00 PM
Wait, before I look the link in the OP, let's see if I can correctly guess all five.

1. Cash.

2. Chocolate.

3. Charm*.

4. G Spot*.

5. Unicorns.

* These two are reported by some as being fictitious and not actually existing in nature. I beg to differ, but scientists cannot agree.

#5 Saw it myself at Mann's Chinese Theater in Hollywood. Good place to see it...place was packed, and the movie is hilarious.

DaQueenBeez
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:09:00 PM
#3 = fictitious option for males

#4 = fictitious option for females

pacman357
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:15:00 PM
Dry land is not a myth! I have SEEN it!
DaQueenBeez
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:16:00 PM
^^^ Hate to break it to you, but that was probably just a seagoing unicorn...
pacman357
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:40:00 PM
Wouldn't that just be a different species of seahorse?
DaQueenBeez
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:43:00 PM
Subspecies, actually.
pacman357
Thursday, February 18, 2010 5:51:00 PM
Well...I don't know. I can be charming. When I smile, I get that little sparkle at the corner of my mouth, you know, when the light hits it?

As for the g-spot...well, I've yet to be handed a map or GPS while trying to locate one...even got applause once (just from one person at a time).