PSA: If you have a Veteran in your family and you don’t like their moods and behavior around the holidays; please consider these six things:

1.) Your veteran has served in countries where people are blessed to receive a tattered pair of shoes or have clean water to drink; he/she no longer lives the “first world illusion” and no longer cares that if you buy one play station you can get a second one for fifty percent off. In fact, they find it hard to appreciate any of the gluttonous commercialism and overindulgence that permeates American holidays. Standing watch, boring as it was, had so much more purpose than going to the mall.

2.) Your Veteran is thankful for the most basic things; not thankful for mega-sales and million dollar parades. They are thankful to be alive; thankful to have survived both the wars far away and the wars they struggle with inside.

3.) Your Veteran is thankful that it wasn't them that got killed, but their celebrations are forever complicated by guilt and loss over those that were. Some of the most thankful times in their life were some of the scariest. Their feelings of thanks and celebration often conjure memories that are equally painful.

4.) Your Veteran is not like you anymore. At some point, for some period of time, their entire life boiled down to just three simple things: when will I eat today, when will I sleep today, and who will I have to kill or will try to kill me today? They are not like you anymore.

5.) Your Veteran does not need a guilt-trip or a lecture; they already feel detached in their grief while others so easily embrace the joy of the season. They need understanding and space; empathy not sympathy.

6.) Your Veteran does love his/her family and is thankful for the many blessings in their life…and they are thankful for you.

If you have family members or friends who are Veterans, remember to reach out to them during the Holiday months and Birthdays... because these times are sometimes the hardest to deal with the demons!!! 🤔 🙏 😇

Well said.
#3 hits hard

Yes' Sir!! and Thank you for your service!!! 🍺

My older brother was in Army in the early-middle-ish 60s and although I remember him being in Ecuador during an uprising, on his headstone it says that he was a Vietnam vet. He never, ever mentioned it to me so can’t imagine what his experience was.

My Uncle was WWII in the Pacific, and he didn't talk about any of his war experiences when we were younger, but when he seen I'd joined the Military we then used to have many talks of his war experiences, My wife's dad is a Korean War Vet (Navy) he ran marines to shore and brought back the wounded and KIA's back to the ship.. he and I talk about his years in the Navy and my wife says, Dad never spoke about his time in the military with us kids growing up... Many veterans want to forget the bad times, but their are many a good times as well, but also feel non military folks don't need to know and most do not or will not talk about it to civilians and many with Major Traumatic events don[t even want to talk to VA Councilors as to not be stereotyped or categorized and the VA does in fact do just that...