Gene363
2 years ago
^ I hear you, and you'll be ok if the wedding is soon, but a little farther into warmer weather... 🤬 💓
Gene363
2 years ago
I have a question for all of you. One of our grandsons and his wife built a house, it's 99% complete. His wife's family decided to do the driveway into the place and put in the lawn.

About 75% into the driveway/lawn they sent out a text with progress shots and a request for funding to complete the job to myself, the other grandparents and the other Father. This is not the way we raised our sons, they are very independent, what would your response be?

Thanks!


BuckyB93
2 years ago
I have a suit but I can't tell you the last time I wore it. I use to have 3 of them but donated two of them since I don't need them. Not even sure if the one I have fits but I haven't gained or lost weight in a long time so it probably does. Maybe I have a high metabolism (shrug). Seems like my body hovers around 155-160 lbs no matter what I do or eat.

I eat when I'm hungry and snack throughout the day - candy, fruit, veggies, yogurt. I don't have an exercise regiment but probably walk about 8-10 miles a day at work. I prefer to be on the shop floor solving problems and testing new designs rather than sitting at a desk chair or in sales meetings. I know what I gotta do, if you need me come find me or page me.

If I need to dress fancy, ironed khakis and shirt is dressing fancy for me. Otherwise its cargo pants, short or long sleeve T-shirt and sweat shirt if it's cold. I'll wear shorts on personal time in the summer but while at work I prefer long pants while others prefer shorts.

A few guys I work with wear shorts all year long.

Me to Josh (Josh is average build, say mid 20's years old): "Josh what is wrong with you? It's MA in January - temp says 10° F outside and you are wearing shorts?"
Josh to Me: "I'm not cold. Sure it's cold when I go from here to my car but I'm not cold."
Me: shake my head... "something is wrong with you kid."

Maybe these short wearing folks in the middle of the winter in MA have a better circulation system than I do. I don't get it but whatever... as long as they are comfortable who am I to say.

{I still think there is something wrong, maybe they are not even humans 🤔 }
MACS
2 years ago
I have been known to wear shorts when it's in the 30's here... but also a long sleeve shirt, hoodie, beanie and gloves. My legs just don't get cold.
2 years ago

I have a question for all of you. One of our grandsons and his wife built a house, it's 99% complete. His wife's family decided to do the driveway into the place and put in the lawn.

About 75% into the driveway/lawn they sent out a text with progress shots and a request for funding to complete the job to myself, the other grandparents and the other Father. This is not the way we raised our sons, they are very independent, what would your response be?

Thanks!

Gene363 wrote:


My response would be a nice way to say...you got yourself into this, get yourself out. And if that was met with resentment, I would add why would u even ask? Do I ask u to pay for 25% of gifts I give ppl?
Stogie1020
2 years ago
Which 25% remains? is it the part closest to the house? Just park where it ends until they have the cash to finish it. If it's the part by the road, I hope they parked on the street!
Gene363
2 years ago
^^ I responded, They both have birthdays soon, if they would like to use that money we could do that.

If you do too much I believe you rob them of the accomplishment of doing things for themselves. We raised our sons to be independent, OK. very independent. It might have been different of we had a daughter, but I don't really think so.
PapaWhiskey
2 years ago
What a beautiful Monday! Sunny and 70, nature is green and growing again here in the Northeast, and I'm on the right side of the dirt. What was really special is CashMoneyDave and DeadEyeDick both hooked me up with some outstanding cigars. Today is a great day!
rfenst
2 years ago

Wife has a friend coming in Friday for a wedding on Saturday.

I guess buying a suit, shirt, tie, socks and shoes was on the agenda.... I have a belt. 😰 Shirt is tight in the shoulders... need to return it. I wanted to try it on, but they just wanted to take measurements so they didn't have to unfold it and unpin it and stuff. Well... fuggers should have listened to me.

Oh, well... now I have one for whenever I need one. Which I hope is very infrequently.

MACS wrote:


If you haven't bought your suit yet, based on price, quality and fit: I highly recommend Brooks Brothers Outlet!!!


(Just told someone this recently. Was it you?)
rfenst
2 years ago

Suits are item of clothing I no longer wear. I will wear dress slacks, a blazer, and so on. I do have a tuxedo for black tie events.

Speyside2 wrote:


I threw out like 13 suits and sport-coat/pant combos as well as all my ties when I retired. Love every minute of never seeing them again. Closure.

Went out and bought a timeless style, charcoal-grey, suit, a few shirts and a few ties. That's all I need. I refuse to rent a tux, so I used to have one when all our friends were getting married. But now, I would just wear my suit with a black tie or bowtie, depending on the circumstances.
rfenst
2 years ago

This is not the way we raised our sons, they are very independent, what would your response be?

Thanks!

Gene363 wrote:


Get your son and his wife on the same page and let them deal with it in a way that doesn't leave hard feelings. They should not convey your discussion with your son or about talking about how you feel to them. you. One or both should express "thier personal concern. If there are hard feelings after that, so what."

(Did they go over budget?)
Gene363
2 years ago

Get your son and his wife on the same page and let them deal with it in a way that doesn't leave hard feelings. If there are hard feelings- so what.

rfenst wrote:



Good advice, that was my first call after *discussing it with my wife. 😄

* I tend to be very thrifty and sometime the exact opposite. 😰
rfenst
2 years ago

^^ I responded, They both have birthdays soon, if they would like to use that money we could do that.

If you do too much I believe you rob them of the accomplishment of doing things for themselves. We raised our sons to be independent, OK. very independent. It might have been different of we had a daughter, but I don't really think so.

Gene363 wrote:


It would have been no different. Trust me...
MACS
2 years ago

If you haven't bought your suit yet, based on price, quality and fit: I highly recommend Brooks Brothers Outlet!!!

(Just told someone this recently. Was it you?)

rfenst wrote:



You did tell me that. I found what I needed not too far from the house. Little bit of sticker shock, but I did get pants, jacket, shirt, tie, shoes and socks. Good to have something nice when I need it.
corey sellers
2 years ago
Well don’t go getting buried yet I will be there Wednesday night.

Just sayin…
MACS
2 years ago
Not gonna get buried. I'm gonna feed the fish. It's only fair...
corey sellers
2 years ago
Just let me know where so I can catch them summabitches for ya
deadeyedick
2 years ago

Morning BsOTL,
DED, what will you do with anniversary and golf tournament behind you? Trip to Disneyland?

jeebling wrote:



I tripped over the damn Adirondack chain and barked my shin but thats all.

Gene, tell 'em whatever they get comes out of the inheritance. 😇
Gene363
2 years ago

I tripped over the damn Adirondack chain and barked my shin but thats all.

Gene, tell 'em whatever they get comes out of the inheritance. 😇

deadeyedick wrote:



😂 Not even, it all does to their parents. 👻

jeebling
2 years ago

I have a question for all of you. One of our grandsons and his wife built a house, it's 99% complete. His wife's family decided to do the driveway into the place and put in the lawn.

About 75% into the driveway/lawn they sent out a text with progress shots and a request for funding to complete the job to myself, the other grandparents and the other Father. This is not the way we raised our sons, they are very independent, what would your response be?

Thanks!

Gene363 wrote:



If I wasn’t consulted before this generous offer was made I would have to regretfully decline the invitation. It is a hairball move to make such a generous gift and be the hero only to have to “drag” everyone else in against their will to get it paid for. I know this probably isn’t so much about who gets the credit, but the principle involved here is fundamental. That’s just my opinion.
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