gummy jones
Monday, March 9, 2020 5:28:39 PM
Cremation then added to the spaghetti sauce at my wake
tonygraz
Monday, March 9, 2020 5:50:19 PM
Good idea gummy - better to mix it in when making brownies for the final "bite me".
tailgater
Monday, March 9, 2020 5:56:15 PM

I assume I will pass before my wife does, so I say it is her call, otherwise my kids can decide. If they want an open casket and burial, that's fine, if they want me cremated, that is fine as well. Whatever helps them cope the best.

When my mom passed away unexpectedly, we couldn't stand the thought of an open casket and the full grave site thing, so we had her cremated. For us it was much better that way.

Hank_The_Tank wrote:

Don't make your survivors make the decision. Make it for them and put it in writing.

Last thing they'll want to think about is what is best.

tailgater
Monday, March 9, 2020 6:02:59 PM
When my BIL passed suddenly in December it was difficult to watch the toll it takes on the family. Too many decisions.

So my wife and I wanted to be clear what our wishes would be.

Easy peasy. Right?

I haven't been to a grave marker since I was dragged to one as a kid. Just not my thing.

But I haven't buried my parents or a sibling. Or a kid.

And I think maybe I would an official place to visit them when they're in my prayers.

Or maybe not. Maybe a backyard spot would be even better. Bury the urn or scatter the ash. Put a bench.

I'd rather have my insurance money go to a party to celebrate that I'm gone. I mean my life.

Or towards a trip so my family could scatter me somewhere exotic. Because I exude exoticism.

I spelled erotic wrong.

RMAN4443
Tuesday, March 10, 2020 1:34:00 PM

When my BIL passed suddenly in December it was difficult to watch the toll it takes on the family. Too many decisions.

So my wife and I wanted to be clear what our wishes would be.

Easy peasy. Right?

I haven't been to a grave marker since I was dragged to one as a kid. Just not my thing.

But I haven't buried my parents or a sibling. Or a kid.

And I think maybe I would an official place to visit them when they're in my prayers.

Or maybe not. Maybe a backyard spot would be even better. Bury the urn or scatter the ash. Put a bench.

I'd rather have my insurance money go to a party to celebrate that I'm gone. I mean my life.

Or towards a trip so my family could scatter me somewhere exotic. Because I exude exoticism.

I spelled erotic wrong.

tailgater wrote:

Last Pat's game we met up at, you were "exuding" something...I didn't know it was "exoticism"...now that I know what it was, I'm a little scared....😨

tailgater
Tuesday, March 10, 2020 1:45:18 PM

Last Pat's game we met up at, you were "exuding" something...I didn't know it was "exoticism"...now that I know what it was, I'm a little scared....😨

RMAN4443 wrote:

ground zero for the exoticism pandemic.

delta1
Tuesday, March 10, 2020 2:22:50 PM

Don't make your survivors make the decision. Make it for them and put it in writing.

Last thing they'll want to think about is what is best.

tailgater wrote:

wise words...

also, set some money aside to pay for the expenses...and for the celebration of your departure...

madspackler
Wednesday, March 11, 2020 5:09:49 PM
When my Mom passed last year we honored get wishes to be cremated. The Funeral home Director had all six siblings sign off on a statement that we recognized Cremation was an irreversible process. Was kind of surprised but it has come about due to lawsuits from other family members.

As for me - I’m dust in the wind when I die. The Mrs can decide where she wants to spread the ashes.

itsawaldo
Thursday, March 12, 2020 9:17:13 AM
My parents had lots here in Chicagoland at Mt Emblem, really nice for a suburban location.

(Mine now and are for sale)

When they moved to GA they got spots in the a Veterans but in the end decided upon cremation with their ashes dispersed in northern Wisconsin.

My brother and I took them up to one of their favorite locations out in the woods, my entire extended family knows where the copse of white pines is at.

There are two intersecting game trails that pass through, there are birds in the trees and the breeze through the pines is peaceful.

When I have gone to visit I have seen deer in the little grove.

I couldn't ask for a better place myself.

Buckwheat
Thursday, March 12, 2020 9:43:25 AM
Don't really care! 🌫

Just no necrophilia! 🤒

izonfire
Thursday, March 12, 2020 10:27:44 PM

Don't really care! 🌫

Just no necrophilia! 🤒

Buckwheat wrote:

Thou doth protest too much...

CelticBomber
Thursday, March 12, 2020 11:27:44 PM
Ashes spread in the creek I used to fish at. I spread my beloved Lily's (Black Lab in my avatar) ashes there. She loved going there to swim every day. I also don't want a funeral. I want a party where people have to get up and tell a joke or two then get hammered and go through my humidors and enjoy a cigar on me. I also made arraignments to have whats left mailed, humidors and all to certain people. Also have a DNR in place. If I'm not going to recover and be able to walk out with all my faculties intact and be able to still care for myself I'm checking out. All the papers are in order. I also made sure I'm an organ donor if anything is salvageable. I thought about bagpipes playing Amazing Grace as they dump my ashes but, since I won't be able to hear it I said screw it;-)
frankj1
Thursday, March 12, 2020 11:36:06 PM
arraignments? can you do that?
CelticBomber
Thursday, March 12, 2020 11:40:44 PM

arraignments? can you do that?

frankj1 wrote:

Sure, I left my wife instructions on who gets what box. I told her if she didn't follow through I would come back..... I guarantee with that threat hanging over her head she'll follow my instructions to a Tee;-p

frankj1
Thursday, March 12, 2020 11:44:36 PM

Sure, I left my wife instructions on who gets what box. I told her if she didn't follow through I would come back..... I guarantee with that threat hanging over her head she'll follow my instructions to a Tee;-p

CelticBomber wrote:

oh. I thought you misspelled arraignments

izonfire
Friday, March 13, 2020 12:37:26 AM

oh. I thought you misspelled arraignments

frankj1 wrote:

We’re all being tried in the court of life. You know that.

CelticBomber
Friday, March 13, 2020 1:56:31 AM

oh. I thought you misspelled arraignments

frankj1 wrote:

Heh finally saw what you meant. Arrangements!

Sunoverbeach
Friday, March 13, 2020 5:02:00 AM
Did you instruct her to wait an appropriate amount of time before sending? You have been known to rise from the dead on occasion
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