Hello,
My name is Harvey; I'm a welder and glassworker from Connecticut, and I've relatively recently begun smoking cigars. There is a small mountain of issues that could be discussed, most of which I care little about, but there is one big problem that I find myself with: I have to keep my cigars a secret.
The basics are simple enough. My girlfriend might as will already be my fiance, and in all likelihood will be soon. We're moving in together sometime in the next few months. She is frugal, almost to the point of insanity. She hates the concept of vice with a reserved passion; alcohol and smoking are two of her least favorite things in the world. Basically, there's no reason for her to do anything but hate tobacco and the smoking thereof.
Perpetual secrecy isn't an option, I already feel bad enough for not having told her the first time I tried a cigar. However, I don't have a clue about how to introduce the topic and handle the fallout. Have any of you had to deal with a situation like this? Any suggestions?
It is worth noting that I am very much in love with my girlfriend. She's brilliant, beautiful, and generally too good for me. Basically, I'd give up smoking for her, but I'd like to keep both. Even if it means puffing away outside in the middle of a Minnesota winter.
(She's a graduate student in Minneapolis. That's where I'll be moving soon. Because love makes people dumb.)
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