8trackdisco
4 years ago
Can usually navigate Awkward well. Probably because I have created a fair number of those type interactions. Here's one which pooped up yesterday.

For a series of years, I had no contact with this year. About 6 months ago, on a whim reached out to them. They were initially wary- Why are you reaching out now? What are you looking to achieve? What do you want? etc.

Once they realized there wasn't an angle, just me checking in, it was a nice series of friendly texts. Got caught up, suggested we stay in touch loosely and went our separate ways. Felt good about it.

Yesterday, I got a text with a request for a favor. Someone they know is in their mid-40s, has ALS and about the only thing which still gives with person joy is cigars. The suggested route would be for the person who reached out to the ALS person, find out their cigar preferences, share those preferences with me, and asked if I might be able to round up some smoke donations. The would provide the ALS person's address making it easy for anyone to donate directly to them.

My wife's suggested course is to not be a part of it.

Sooooo. What do you folks think?
dkeage
4 years ago

Can usually navigate Awkward well. Probably because I have created a fair number of those type interactions. Here's one which pooped up yesterday.

For a series of years, I had no contact with this year. About 6 months ago, on a whim reached out to them. They were initially wary- Why are you reaching out now? What are you looking to achieve? What do you want? etc.

Once they realized there wasn't an angle, just me checking in, it was a nice series of friendly texts. Got caught up, suggested we stay in touch loosely and went our separate ways. Felt good about it.

Yesterday, I got a text with a request for a favor. Someone they know is in their mid-40s, has ALS and about the only thing which still gives with person joy is cigars. The suggested route would be for the person who reached out to the ALS person, find out their cigar preferences, share those preferences with me, and asked if I might be able to round up some smoke donations. The would provide the ALS person's address making it easy for anyone to donate directly to them.

My wife's suggested course is to not be a part of it.

Sooooo. What do you folks think?

8trackdisco wrote:



I agree with your wife. That being said, I would probably offer to send em a cbid fiver and wish them luck. YMMV
bgz
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4 years ago
No good deed goes unpunished.

Reeks of some sort of ASPD... the first thought that you wanted something from them... one thing I learned from lower functioning minds is that they tend to apply their own traits to other people because of their inability to empathize...

So therefore if they ever reach out, expect them to ask for something or try to shame you into something.
BuckyB93
4 years ago
Based on the information provided, I don't see anything wrong with your course of action and would be happy to contribute if I have some stuff that fit's their smoking preferences.

If they are looking to be a mooch, then it's one time offer to help someone in need and then all done.
Sunoverbeach
4 years ago
Seems like a low effort request. I'd play
bgz
  • bgz
  • Herf-A-Holic
4 years ago
I wouldn't, it's a test to see if they can open you up, don't do it!
MACS
4 years ago
Women's intuition... listen to the wife would be my suggestion.
Gene363
4 years ago

Can usually navigate Awkward well. Probably because I have created a fair number of those type interactions. Here's one which pooped up yesterday.

For a series of years, I had no contact with this year. About 6 months ago, on a whim reached out to them. They were initially wary- Why are you reaching out now? What are you looking to achieve? What do you want? etc.

Once they realized there wasn't an angle, just me checking in, it was a nice series of friendly texts. Got caught up, suggested we stay in touch loosely and went our separate ways. Felt good about it.

Yesterday, I got a text with a request for a favor. Someone they know is in their mid-40s, has ALS and about the only thing which still gives with person joy is cigars. The suggested route would be for the person who reached out to the ALS person, find out their cigar preferences, share those preferences with me, and asked if I might be able to round up some smoke donations. The would provide the ALS person's address making it easy for anyone to donate directly to them.

My wife's suggested course is to not be a part of it.

Sooooo. What do you folks think?

8trackdisco wrote:



Always better to give, however, if the "preferences" are super premium cigars or something not sold on Cigarbid, I'd be suspicious.
BuckyB93
4 years ago
corey sellers
4 years ago
Sounds sketchy to me . Maybe see what the preferences are and go from there. If premiums I would have to send Gurkhas. People in need should not say they want Padrons they should be happy with what they recieve. I would not actually send Gurkhas I would not do that to anyone unless they ask.
BuckyB93
4 years ago
^ Got any Gurkhas to send me?
corey sellers
4 years ago
Will do send me your addy. I will get them out next week.
corey sellers
4 years ago
Will do send me your addy. I will get them out next week.
corey sellers
4 years ago
Just making sure you heard me the first time.
deadeyedick
4 years ago
Prolly all Corey has left. He sends the good stuff to others.

LMK iffn ya decide to do it. I might have something.
BuckyB93
4 years ago

Will do send me your addy. I will get them out next week.

corey sellers wrote:



I know better than that, I may have been born during the day but I wasn't born yesterday.

I could give you MACs address in CA though.
CelticBomber
4 years ago
Can you even smoke a cigar if you have ALS?

I wouldn't get involved at all.
corey sellers
4 years ago
That would not do me any good. I do have a few Gurkhas hiding. I would of course have to send other stuff.
8trackdisco
4 years ago
Good points. I’ve reached back to them if they would be okay with me to be less opaque on where the ask is coming from. It is additionally awkward because this person would rather be completely anonymous for reasons I understand, but they have played a role on the CigarBid boards for a not insignificant period of time.

Will see where it goes from here.

Thank you, Brothers.
Major Boobage
4 years ago
Just tell Celticbomber to buy his own damn cigars.
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